(Closed) big dilemma: heirloom ring (free) or new ring (not free)?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I would take the ring from her for now. It’s a generous and beautiful gift. And perhaps you could rework it to put in a larger stone as you can afford it? I wouldn’t want to turn the gift down from her. Eventually when you get your dream ring you could wear that other one as a right hand ring?

any pix?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@colorofmyheart:  Could you “upgrade” when your FI is financially in a place to get that other ring? Plus then you’ll still keeping it in the family to pass down one day. I woudl accept the gift and wear it until you are in a better place financially to get that dream ring 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would accept the ring graciously, and wear it proudly.  It may be small, but it’s SO sentimental.  In a few years, after you’re married, you can get the ring you designed and keep the original as a keepsake for your daughters when they get married.  

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If it’s a financial stretch right now for you guys to buy an ering (and it sounds like it is, from what you’ve said), then go for the heirloom.  Your dream set can be a wonderful anniversary gift when you guys have the financial means.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

You could always keep the stone and get the setting you want. Even if it is small, it’s an heirloom and that’s awesome!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Accept the gift.  You wouldn’t want to seem ungrateful. You can always keep the ring like it is for sentimenal value for all included and have FI buy an awesome wedding band to enhance it for now.  down the road you could even swap the center stone for a bigger one and reset the original stone in a new smaller setting or a pendant for a necklace.  My mom took her original stone and placed it in a pendant and she passed that pendant down to me.  I wear it everyday!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

@MerryWidow:  +1 wear it and in a few years purchase what you like and wear the grandmothers set on the right hand until you can pass it on to your kids

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

do you have a pic of the grandmothers set?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why dont you forgo the engagement ring for now, if its not financially viable and get yourself a really pretty diamond wedding band with your small but beautiful heirloom diamond set into it.

Later on  when finances are right, you can get a beautiful big ring that you love!!!

Another option is to get the diamond set in a double halo semi mount that you can buy online.

Pompeii3  and lord of gems have loads of semi mount  options for smaller diamonds. (they are purse friendly aswell)

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Take the ring, wear it, get your dream ring later when you both have full time jobs and perhaps move the heirloom ring to your right hand.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@colorofmyheart:  I think that is the best choice!  How sweet of his mother to offer his grandmother’s ring for you to wear!

Post # 16
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Newbee

@colorofmyheart:  Yay!  That is so exciting.  Can’t wait to see it!  I had a similar conundrum and am really happy that I decided to wear the heirloom.  People really appreciate how special it is to have a piece of family history.  Congratulations!

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