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Small venue and small budget. I'm not inviting anyone I see once a year and only at holidays who do not call during the year. If you do not talk to them, they will not know about the wedding. Explain to your mom that weddings are for those who love you and that is how to intend to keep it
What about just sending them announcements after the wedding with a picture?
@LuvMySailor: agreed. And I understand: our wedding is kept small because there are only a handful of people who genuinely care about us. We decided a long time ago we weren't inviting his huge family (I don't have a big one) simply because we didn't want to cut the budget anywhere to have extra people! We also want it to look lovely and in doing so, we're keeping it tiny!
I have no idea what a good excuse is anymore, "our venue can't hold many people"... "we don't have enough money to feed everyone, hence us doing an after-dinner reception in the first place".... I think those have worked so far. I have no idea if these extended people know yet, that is up to FH's family to tell them since they all live together far from us and no one has contacted me with questions.
Our parents didn't like that we didn't invite every family member either and it's unfortunate that they are unhappy, but we are relieved that it will be a much simpler event. We've just told people that we are having immediate family only. We also made sure we'd planned several details before we even started to discuss the event with anyone. Therefore, even if they complained or questioned us we'd already made or decision. Just be aware it won't placate some people and they'll be upset anyway.
We compromised. Small ceremony venue, and dinner served at the reception only for ceremony guests. The small venue forced us to limit the guest list, and I cut it cleanly at just immediate family, VERY close friends, aunts/uncles, and only first cousins that are spending money to fly in from out of state. We did invite the ENTIRE extended family to a cocktail reception following the dinner, as well as friends of our parents that they wanted to include. This kept our cost down, and kept the intimate part of the day limited to those closest to us.
I am in the same situation I have a HUGE family but I am not close to all of them. We want a very intimate destination wedding so I will only be inviting the family members that I am close to. We will have a casual AHR for everyone else to join and this keeps the wedding costs low for us as well. Good luck :)
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The title says it all. I dislike a couple of them, one group of siblings is just unpleasant, and most of them I'm not close to. I know my mother expects them all to be invited, and they all expect to be invited. I think they were all closer before I was born, but I'm not close to any of them, and I'm not sure I'll be any more involved with many of them as I grow older. The big wedding feels like a charade, but I'm not sure I'll be able to escape it. This thing is bigger than me... LOL. PLUS, I'd like to keep it on the inexpensive side without making it look cheap, which could involve cutting the guest list. Any brides planning an intimate wedding out there? Any good ways to reject people? Good, small venues to give you an excuse not to invite everyone and his dog?