- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Long story short:
After my beloved and beautiful grandmother’s funeral 8 years ago, my (once tight-knit) family slowly severed ties over inheritance and estate issues. Fast forward to now, I’m planning a wedding for this August and was not planning on inviting a few of my aunts and cousins. Well, my parents have taken it upon themselves to share with a few of their siblings that I will be married in August (even there hasn’t been official proposal/announcement). And through word of mouth (of course) the family I was not going to invite has found out about my wedding.
Would it be terrible of me to not invite them still? My main reason to not have them attend is to avoid drama on our big day. These specific few have attacked my mother’s reputation and I just didn’t want to worry about her being uncomfortable or any situations arising on the day of – even though she says she will be fine if they attend. Also, I thought I had the green light to exclude them from the guest list since I learned (again through the wonderful word of mouth method) that my cousin (who has for many years tried to become pregnant) is now expecting a child and was not planning on sharing this miraculous time in her life with her entire family. Not that I think excluding them would call it even, but I figure we are all on the same page about not being involved in each other’s lives anymore. For me it would be wonderful to have my entire family in attendance IF I knew things would be as smooth as they used to be…but if there will be drama, then I’d prefer to keep the guest list as is.
What would you bees do if in my high heels?