Post # 1
Ladies, humour me.
I’m thisclose to ttc officially (December 2013) At the moment DH and I are not trying/not preventing, based on the idea that if it did happen now it wouldn’t be the worse thing in the world but the longer we can wait the better it will be all round- we are paying down some debt and putting some savings aside. By July we’ll be clear, by December will be even better still.
It’s no secret that we are ready, we just want to give our family the best start we can and doing this is the right way to do that. The trouble is, now I’m getting to the point that I want it to happen sooner than December, I keep hoping that we fall pregnant before we official start trying. I don’t know if that makes me a terrible person or what, but my longing for being a mother and to have a child has reached fever pitch. Nothing else matters any more.
So anyway I’ve started feeling different twinges in my body that are pregnancy signs and it got to the point where I started talking myself into believing it was SOMETHING. I kept telling myself I was being silly and it was all in my head, but eventually I caved in a took a test, just to give me an answer one way or another and it was bfn.
I think it’s the first time in my life I’ve ever taken a test when the result being negative wasn’t a relief. I felt gutted, I kept looking at the damn thing, angling it at the light, trying to see if I was missing a faint second line. Nada. and it hurt.
I’m not really asking for any advice here, I just have nobody to say this too IRL. My DH obviously doesn’t get it and my other friends don’t know how close we are to trying, so this would just be out of the blue to talk about.
Post # 3
it hurts when you get your hopes up 🙁 how many DPO are you?
Post # 4
I feel ya. I’ve done this I swear every month, and we’re doing like you…not reall preventing. It makes me afraid for how I’d feel once we put the full press on to actually start trying.
Post # 5
I’m sorry. Until I was TTC, I didn’t realize how painful it would be to see only one line and to keep trying month after month. It can be really lonely when you want a baby, it’s not happening, and you have no one to talk to. Don’t give up. As they say on here, here’s sending baby dust!
Post # 6
I don’t know what’ consitutes “trying” or “not trying” but i’ts my humble opinion that if you aren’t using any artificla birth control, barrier methods, withdrawal or abstainance and you are going about your married life as normal…that, well, it’s going to happen sooner or later…and for many people, they consider that trying.
While charting, temping and all that might get you pregnant faster, this way works too and has been working since forever, so It could happen for you very soon…you never know. I too feel a littel sad everytime I get the BFN even though we aren’t really trying either…but it will happen when it’s the right time for you.
Post # 7
I’m sorry you’re going through this, and I totally understand! I actually went out and bought some FRERs this afternoon because I’ve been feeling nauseated and crampy all week – but I’m still on the pill! I can imagine if we were NTNP I would be symptom spotting every month. It’s not surprising that you feel disappointed, you’re ready to take this big step! It is strange though to spend so many years worrying about falling PG and hearing about how you have to be so careful, and suddenly being in the opposite position where it’s all you want.
Keep your head up – and here’s hoping that when the two of you are ready to start TTC for real, you see those two beautiful lines quickly 🙂
Post # 8
@Soon2BeeMrsG: ****HUGE VIRTUAL BEAR HUGS**** it sure hurts to see just one line and believe me, Ive been there many, many times. It doesnt get easier, especially when you are officially TTC. Hopefully when you get to that point, you will get your BFP right away, dear.