Big or Small Wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Well, we both originally wanted a huge wedding, looked at the numbers and said “Spending 15K on one day is something that we don’t want to do.”

So instead we decided to have a small wedding! Small to me meant 20 people. Small to DH meant 100 people.

So we met in the middle at 42 guests! And spent 4K.

Post # 4
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Daenaria727:  We were able to have a small wedding (45 guests) and afford to pull out all of the stops.

That’s so much better than having to budget and cut corners for 150 guests.

Post # 5
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Daenaria727:  are there certain aspects of a big wedding that your FI really wants or does he just want a lot of guests? 

Post # 6
8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

My husband would have had 200 people at our wedding. I just simply said I am not comfortable with that many people, and that I feel we shouldn’t invite people that aren’t in our lives. 

I won 😉

Post # 8
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Daenaria727:  if he wants the party with 200+ people then could you do a dessert and drinks only reception? Have the ceremony a little later (7:00 pm) and note dessert reception on the invites. It’ll help control costs by cutting dinner, but lets your FI still be the center of attention. 

Post # 9
7531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Daenaria727:  Well, what? how many? how much? where? What are we talking?  What are both of your 3 top priorities for the wedding day?

Post # 10
5160 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

In your situation, I would do the small wedding now. 

Luckily for me, the wedding I wanted and the one I could afford were not in conflict, so I didn’t have to make this (difficult!) decision.

Post # 11
922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

For me, a small wedding just wasn’t an option. I have a huge family and it is very important to me to have them all there. We’re having about 120 guests and it will end up costing about 18k. I know that’s a lot to spend on one day, but we have the money so it’s not a huge deal. And considering a lot of people pay double, triple, or even more for their weddings, I got over the price tag and decided to just enjoy it

If FI got his way we would be inviting 300 people with a budget of 5k. He had NO idea what weddings would actually cost

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