- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
getting close to having a date set (yey!!!!) but ive also been thinking about my girls…. its been 9 months since the last time i posted about by potential bridesmaids B & C…and not much has changed…. they are still both wonderful friends to me….but when one is brought up to the other…it gets really hard. ive had both over (separate) and still the drama continues….
Cs guy works with a close (not so close?) friend of B. and this friend (who i think dosent like me very much for some reason…idk why cause i always try to be nice to her.) has started (really bad) rumors about B and her guy and has spread it to others at the work place… of couse to C’s guy…and of course to C…so C and her guy have the nerve to tell me. AKWARD! but yet so untrue! and of course i didnt tell B any of this cause its really none of my business and im not one to bring on the drama and get people nervous and i dont want to get my best friend nervous. sometimes i think B’s friend told C to get B to turn on me…and C told me so i would turn on B. i know B’s friend is jealous of me and C is jealous of B…thats how that is.
and then when i talk about C with B and her guy AND with my guy they all say to not invite C and her guy cause they are pretty much just plain(hate to say it and agree but) stupid. B and her gu are getting really tired of her and Bs guy even said something nasty about C within ears shot of C at her work (dont know if she heard though but feel kinda bad if she did…and also not after what shes put B and her guy through) but then that all gets me in a bad spot. C talks about her wedding and sounds like i might have a second chance to be in it…and i would love to (even if she can be stupid at times…whos not stupid at times… right?)….im proud she finally found a great guy. but i dont want to risk that by not inviting her to be a bridesmaid.
but i know if she is there she will be her super sulk-tastic self! she wont say much and wont do much, wont make eye contact,will have an attitude, roll her eyes…storm off on ocassion…and bite her nails in the corner waiting for me to console her and fight me for wanting harmony….meaning all attention will gravitate to her bad behavior. sounds like a flower girl problem right lol not a Bridesmaid or Best Man problem! thowing a tantrum and such. but she may just avoid everything and decided not to come…and it maybe a good chance with her wanting to move by june 2012. and god do i want B there but im starting to wonder if she will show up if C is there.
but man i hate all of this! i dont want to go Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping twice or more and i dont really want to do it without them…and i have a lot of DIY so im going to need help. dont think i will be able to have them both meet me to talk…i just dont see it going down well. so i think i might write them each a letter. i want them both there but i think i have to set this all straight and put down some ground rules for them…which i hate…HATE. i just envision the bridezillas that have these long lists of rules for BMs and i cringe! i dont want to be like that but when you have bridesmaidzillas what do you do? they are the closest friends i have and i have always planned for them to be there! i think i will write them each a letter. and i think they will have to take some kind of Bridesmaid or Best Man oath (if it turns out well once i compose it i will post it) and once they take it they will get their Bridesmaid or Best Man invitation/gift. and if they give me or any BM hell then the invitation is canceled and they just walk away with the gift/consolation prize.
good news though….i have another potential BM!!!! no relation to B or C…so no drama there. Lets call her J….J is awesome….shes my brothers bride to be. shes such a sweetie and helpful and kind and keeps to herself. i havent gotten to known her really well though cause she lives with my bro about 2 hrs away… but i love her! i have a feeling shes going to be my breath of fresh air! although she will be planning her own wedding, i hope in the coming months we can keep in touch and get to know each other better by helping each other out.
but what would you write? what would be in your bridesmaid oath? would you email or facebook or would you still have a face to face…(altogether or separate?) anyone with a similar situation….did having them in your wedding come out good and you were just way too concerned or did it turn out bad and you should have seen it coming?