Post # 1
Okay so I have a huge family and my guest list would be about 200 guests and if I have a big wedding my mom would want to go all out. But I’m more simple and I think I’d get nervous more with a ton guests watching and having attention on me.
So should I have the big wedding or elope/have small wedding with maybe 30 guests or just us 2 and instead put a down payment on a home? then when we come back have big cheaper party with everyone?? I’m only 21 and will be 22 when we get married and fiancé is still in school becoming a microbiologist so idk.
Which one would you advise?
Also has anyone had the small wedding or elopement and regretted it?
thanks girls 🙂
Post # 3
@Soontobemrsflavia: btw we’ve been together for 5 years
Post # 4
@Soontobemrsflavia: small wedding maybe so a reception back home and Duse the rest towards ur home
Post # 5
@Soontobemrsflavia: I think it depends on your life goals and circumstances. Are you certain you will stay in the same place for the next 5 to 7 years? do you have the money or is it an amount your parents are giving you (are they open to non-wedding uses of the money)?
We decided on a budget that we were comfortable with and wouldn’t jeopardize our financial future/goals. Having a wedding was important for us so we could celebrate with friends and family. Now we are saving more for a down payment on a house.
You should both decide what is important to the two of you.
Post # 6
@Soontobemrsflavia: I would do the smaller money and use to money for a home. A big wedding is great and all but I rather have the investment of a home and the marriage with the guy of my dreams. I might be a bit bias tho because I would never spend a alot of money on a wedding when there is things IMO tht are more important to spend the money on. I have a big family too so I understand. I don’t seem to want the big wedding tho and sense you aren’t I would use the cash on your home with your guy :).
Post # 7
@242beauty: thanks I really can’t justify spending 40k on one day! Lol
Post # 8
Who is paying for the wedding and who is paying for the down payment on a home?
My parents are helping me out with the wedding (budget: $15k, bc I too cannot justify spending too much on one day – and our guest list is very small, 60 invited, expecting about 30 – doing a small, intimate destination wedding, bc I don’t want to pay for a lot of people I don’t want there celebrating with me, etc). But, I don’t think that they would give me $15k and say, “Here, take this for your home instead” – they are offering to help pay for the wedding, not offering to help buy a home. So, either I take the money and have a wedding, or I get nothing free.
But, if I had to pay for both myself, I’d elope.
Post # 9
@futuremrsk18: my family said theyd pay for a down payment & small wedding or big wedding. I’d rather have the small wedding but I know my guest list would still be 60 and idk if I want to pay for everyone’s expenses for their trip 🙁
Post # 10
@Soontobemrsflavia: If your parents are paying for anything you want, then I don’t really know why you feel like you need to pick? I’d honestly get a down payment on a house secured first and then get married – only bc I’d be afraid my parents would back out (not that it’s like them to do so, but bc it just happens sometimes, people change their minds, run out of money, or whatever the case may be). If your parents require marriage first, I’d have a small, secret ceremony with just both sets of parents, then get the house and spend some time planning the wedding after that. You’ll find that as you grow, your tastes will change and unless you’re looking to have kids anytime soon, there’s no rush in having the wedding itself for a while, really. That’s just what I would do though.
Post # 11
@Soontobemrsflavia: I’m not married yet, but we have decided not to have a huge wedding party, and to just go to the courthouse and get married. We have the same idea in mind- we would rather put all that money towards a down payment for a home.
Post # 12
For me that would be a no brainet, especially if someone was offering to give me the money! Down payment on a house all the way.
Post # 13
This is a no brainer. house will set u up for the future. Wedding is 1 day.
down payment on house without a doubt
Post # 14
Honestly have a smaller wedding & use the rest on a down payment. Having a home is important.
Post # 15
Definitely a down payment! My brother and his FI are getting married in about six months, and this weekend she was planting flowers in their new front yard! Totally envious. Go for the house!
Post # 16
We had a nice wedding that was under 10k and used our money to buy a house about 4 months later. Totally made the right decision for us! I can live in this house every day, but the wedding, even though it was lovely, was just one day.