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I don't think 7 is too many at all! I went to a wedding where there were 13 bridesmaids...that was a bit much. 7 is really not bad.
I had 7! We were fine and our venue didn't have a ton of space. I was in a wedding as one of 13 - which wasn't terrible, it just made organizing things extremely difficult. Go with 7!
Whew! OK, thank you for the quick reply. At first I didn't think it was too much either, but I probably shouldn't have googled it. LOL I googled it & came upon yahoo answers and the people answered a girls Q on there about having 7 BM's & 7groomsmen & they were so mean to her! People were saying it's not a pageant & 7 each is too "showy". Whatever, I guess I should just be happy that I have 7 close women in my life. 
I had 6 girls and DH had 7 guys - I never thought I'd have such a big wedding party but it was great and it all worked out beautifully. I felt so fortunate to have our nearest and dearest at our sides on our wedding day. It'll be great!
If you can't "cut" anyone, then you can't! I wouldn't think of 7 as being too many girls, especially with your size wedding. Don't worry about what other people say. Enjoy spending time with your seven closest girls!
I have 8 girls! I totally understand and I'm really hoping it doesn't get to be too much to handle. I hope that they can come to an agreement when it comes to showers, and bach. party.
I hope it works out!
I'm having 7 too. My two sisters, FI's three sisters, and two close friends. At first I was really paranoid about it looking ridiculous, But really, who's going to judge, especially when the BMs are mostly family. Just embrace it!
But that's also why we're not having a head table--between the bridal party and their dates and kids, it would just be silly. :)
There's no right way to do a wedding - just what feels right for you! Good luck! 8)
For some reason I always thought I'd have 3-4 bridesmaid and about 80 guests. I don't know why I thought this because I'd never really given it serious thought. Then, I got engaged and I started counting up people to invite and making a list of great friends.
I was SHOCKED when my list of great girlfriends had 12 people on it. I finally cut it into my top 7 very closest friends/sister and realize there was no reason on earth I had to cut any of them. There's not rule about it. I have my sister, friends from college and friends from graduate school and I'm not about to cut that list down because I can't imagine it any other way.
Same with the guest list, I guess I thought I only had 80 close people to invite but it was super rewarding to tally friends (other than on facebook) and see how many people I have in my life to share the day with.
There's no wedding police. Do what makes you happiest!
7 is definitely not "too many." who decides what too many is anyway? i had 6 and there is no one that i could have cut even if i wanted to. on your wedding day, you want the people that you feel closest to around you and if that's 7 girls, then it's 7 girls. enjoy!
I don't think 7 is bad ... it'll be fine. If you are ok managing your group of BM, there's no reason you shouldn't do it.
DH was in a wedding and he was one for TWENTY GM - There were literally more than 40 people in the wedding party - they had an hour for pictures after the wedding and I think they got one big group picture, one with just the girls, one with just the guys - and that's it. It took so long to manage that big of a group!!
Thanks a lot everyone who replied! I appreciate it. This is why I love these boards - everyone is so helpful. I'm feeling much better about my decision now!
No that is perfect! I have a Matron of honor who is a close friend, Maid of honor who has been a friend since I was little, 2 soon to be sister in laws who are bridesmaids and a friend who is a bridesmaid.
I have 8 so don't beat yourself up about it. What I tell anyone who looks shocked is that my FH and I are very social people who love to have friends around and it would not feel like us if we did not have a big group. This seems to bring smiles to even the most hesitant inquirers.
I say you should have every person that you want with you that day, it is your day so go for it!
i read somewhere that you should have one bm for every 35-50 guests. you're a little over that, but who cares! 7 is fine if you want them all to stand up with you! another option, though, is to have a house party like miss hippo, or to have some seated bridesmaids (they can still wear the same thing, they just sit during the ceremony). but really, it's your wedding, so do whatever you want! if you were only having 75 guests, then yes, 7 bms would be a lot, but if you're having a bigger wedding it's totally fine.
I think you would be more stressed if you did cut someone instead of just having her. It's your wedding you do whatever you feel is right.
We have 7 girls (my 2 sisters, 2 of my Fi's closets girl friends and 3 of my closest friends) and 7 guys (my brother, his best friend, my closest friend, his nefew and 3 other close friends) as well we think its perfect its our most closests friends and family our venue is big and we have a guest list of 400
I went to two weddings, one in 2007 and one it 2008 where the entire bridal party topped out at about 30... I kid you not. One was for a friend, and she has 7 sisters that she had to include, plus a few friends. The other was for my future brother-in-laws. his wife comes from a very large Italian family so she had her sisters, cousins, sisters-in-law, and some friends in her bridal party. I'll be having 3-5 I think, maybe, I'm not sure yet. I've gone to 13 weddings since May of 2007, and I think most had about 5, but some had fewer, some had more. IF you didn't want all them in the bridal party, consider having them do readings during your ceremony or participate in other big ways.
Good Luck!
I also have 7 girls and just couldn't cut anyone out also. My two MOH are my sister and my best friend and the other 5 girls are close friends who I grew up since my childhood. I aiming for 400 guests at our wedding so 7 girls will be fine. With the guest list you have, I'm sure you'll be fine as well! As long as your comfortable with your 7 girls, it'll turn out great. Goodluck!
You have however many people you want. These are people you want with you and if your FI thinks it's fine, then so be it. No one will judge, at least no on you love will judge.
Good luck with your planning!
Seven is perfectly fine! It just means that there are tons of people in your life who you love and who love you! I'm having six and don't feel like it's too much at all. :)
I don't think 7 is too many at all! It's your day, and you should have whoever you want standing up there for you. I can relate to you because I'm in a similar situation. I have 9 bridesmaids, 3 of which are my closest college friends, 1 best friend from high school, 3 childhood friends, my FSIL, and my closest cousin. Sometimes I also think I have too many bridesmaids, but at the end of the day, I can't imagine not having any of them by my side on my wedding day. So I say go for it!
I dont think 7 is ridiculously large at all.. i was expecting you to say you had 12 or 15, I do know someone who has 14 bridesmaids...
I think 5 or 6 is average. im having NINE because a literally couldnt cut anyone. all 9 are either family or very very close friends who will or have had me in theirs. all nine were non negitiable.
7 will look great, dont worry.
I agree! Although I'm going to have 8 so maybe I'm biased. My 3 sisters, FI's 3 sisters and two friends. I have talked to a LOT of people about this because I wasn't sure whether to include FI's sisters or not, going from 5 to 8 seemed like a lot to me! But someone on here gave me really good advice. She said that now having been married for awhile and also having kids, those girls are her kids aunts - they are an important and integral part of there lives and now she looks back and wishes she had asked them. She said it felt like part of her family was missing! That really hit home with me.
I think that if YOU can't imagine a day without all of them - go for it and brush off those naysayers! You are lucky in all kinds of Love - hooray!
Go for it! I have 7 BMs as well, and got a lot of "Oh WOW" reactions when asked about how many people were in the party. But, I honestly felt that I couldn't cut any one of them.. I had my only sister, FI's only sister (well, only sibling, period), my best friend from high school that I'm still very close to, my 2 college roommates who I lived with for 3 years and still talk to on a regular basis (1 of whom has been a close friend since we were 10), and my 2 very close friends that I've made since starting grad school last year. Think of it this way.. consider yourself lucky to have so many close girlfriends that you care about and that want to share your day with you! People will always be critical of SOMETHING & have their opinion on what's okay/not okay, so you just gotta let it roll off your back if it's something like this that's important to you!
Seven is not too many! Go with your gut instinct and don't worry about anything else. You would likely regret not having them all.
I just got engaged Halloween weekend and I have 7 bridesmaids as well!!!!! I thought it was a lot at first too but it'll be fun! I have 5 best friends, sister-in-law, and my finance's sister. Happy planning :)
I just got engaged Halloween weekend and I have 7 bridesmaids as well!!!!! I thought it was a lot at first too but it'll be fun! I have 5 best friends, sister-in-law, and my finance's sister. Happy planning :)
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Ok, so here's the deal ~ I have 2 younger sisters. 1 is my maid of honor, the other is going to be listed as a matron of honor. I also have a bff who is my sister-in-law, so she will be a BM. I have my cose friend for ten years as a bridesmaid, and I am also really close with 3 cousins. So that's 7 girls. I looked at the list over and over again, and I just cannot cut anyone. They are all close to me & I want them up there with me. My FI says it's fine, I shouldn't be stressed, however I am feeling like it's going to look like too many.
The place we are getting married is HUGE & grand. So we won't be squished up there at all. We are having about 175 guests. We both come from pretty big italian families.
I guess I am just freaking out because I don't want people to think I am trying to be ridiculous with all those BM's, but I just can't cut anyone. Also, my FI has 3 brothers & some best friends he can't cut either, so these people are seriously just in our wedding because we love them all.
What do you think?