@JrzyGurl: I ended up choosing 9 BMS because I did not want anyone to feel left out, and it has actually been AMAZING. I was able to include my Fi’s sister, my cousin, and friends from college and high school, so I have people representing groups from all seasons of my life.
They decided to divide up and throw me several smaller showers in addition to one big one, so it’s been fun to have multiple events to attend. Since they are from different places, my hometown girls are throwing one there, college friends threw a couple there, etc.
More people= less cost per person. The showers have not been so burdensome (at least I dont think) because they are not expected to attend each one and they dont have to chip in as much money. They are also sharing hotel costs too.
More people= more availability to help with wedding related tasks. I’ve invited different BMs to different events..Some were there to help me pick out my dress, some are helping me address invitations, etc. And it’s fun, because we bond in smaller groups in addition to in the big BP group.
Everyone feels included, and being a BM in my opinion, makes you feel more invested in the bride’s big day. You understand that she recognizes you as one of her closest friends, and having a large bridal party had actually strengthened my friendships with those girls.
-More money on bridesmaids gifts
**Bottom Line: It’s YOUR wedding. Have as many or few as you want. I too am having about 150 people at my wedding. When I picked my BP I heard the rule (Pick one BM for every 30-50 guests). That just didn’t work for me. Following that rule I could only have 4 girls. There was no way I could cut people out just to follow some “rule.” It’s my wedding, and I am doing it my way.
Additionally, I have not experienced any of the drama or heartache that it seems many people have with large wedding parties because these girls truly are ALL my close friends. It’s not been hard to keep in touch with everyone either..Get group text/email, and send out mass messages when you need to get a lot of info out.
Frankly having a large BP has been the most fun part of planning my big day thus far. I love having different girls to bounce things off of, and if three or four girls can’t make it to an event– no big. I have 6 other BMs who CAN come. (just a small perk)