Post # 1
Sorry, this has been bothering me for weeks. I am 5’8″ and 175lbs… not my ideal weight, I’m a size 14, but I am pretty comfortable with myself.
When I started dress shopping, however, I started getting anxious about needing to lose weight before the wedding. My mom, aunt, and grandma all keep hinting “you want to look good for pictures” and “you just need to lose a bit of the pudge around the middle”. This photo is during my last dress shopping trip… with my bridesmaid wearing the dress I loved so much because she is a size 8, so she could try the sample on that I was too big for. I love her, she is awesome and it helped that I could see the dress on someone, but it HURT.
My 4 bridesmaids are all noticably smaller than me (the one in the picture is closest to my size), and will be even if I get down to my ideal weight of 160.
I am just so scared of seeing myself in photos surrounded by all of these skinny beautiful girls… for just that one day I want to feel like I am the beautiful one
*ok, end rant. i need to go find some tissues now*
Post # 3
You said so yourself that you’re comfortable with yourself and I don’t think you should let wedding planning change that. Perhaps try to be honest with your family that their comments are hurting you?
A wedding is just one day. Your fiance loves you just the way you are. Unless you feel like losing weight because you’ve decided that it’s something you want to do in general then I don’t see why you would do it for the wedding.
Try not to compare yourself to others, I know it’s hard not to. I’m a thinner girl and I find myself doing the opposite of you. I’m envious of my curvier friends who have full boobs and can fill out any top they want to put on. I think there are “perks” and “downsides” to each body type and continually compairing ourselves to one another isn’t doing us any good.
Post # 4
I was bigger than all my bridesmaids, too. Even the pregnant one! I’m pretty sure I was still the prettiest girl at the party
It helped wearing a corset dress with a lot of structure, so my waist got sucked in heaps (my ribcage was very tender for a few days afterwards), and that helped me feel more confident. But, at the end of the day, I was the only bride there – I looked and felt great!
Post # 5
@Nferrari: If I’m lucky, I’ll be a very happy size 12 at my wedding. My bridesmaids are all between sizes 2-6. ::sigh:: It is what it is, girl. You’re happy with yourself. Your FI thinks your bee’s knees. That is what’s important.
Post # 6
At this point I think I’m bigger than all of mine too, though not by much. But you know what? I’ll be the bride. No one else is going to be going, “Wow, that girl in the white dress is bigger than all the others.” They’ll be saying, “Wow, that is a gorgeous bride!” And they will with you too. Be confident with yourself, and you’ll surely glow.
Post # 7
@Nferrari: My only bridesmaid is a size 6, attempting to be a size 4 by the wedding and I’m between a 16 & a 14 so I feel your pain. But keep in mind that it is your wedding and no matter what you will be the most gorgeous person in your wedding. Nothing can change that so don’t let your size influence your happiness because if you can just let go no other woman will be able to hold a candle next to you.
Post # 8
I am in the opposite. I am petite and all of my bridesmaids are bigger than me. A pain as well. How about we changing bridesmaids?
Any way, no matter big or petite, that is us. Good or bad, let’s just accept it.
Post # 9
@Nferrari: First, that gown is gorgeous. You have amazing taste. Second, try not to compare yourself to others. If you are comfortable, why are you upset? Be proud of who you are. And should you decide that you are not comfortable, do something about it. You are a smart, strong, beautiful woman, and you have to power to change anything in your life you seek to change. That includes your physical fitness. Choose to be happy or choose to change, and don’t waste a precious day in tears. This should be a happy time- you are marrying the love of your life!!!
Post # 10
@Nferrari: ((Hugs)) Honey, you are a beautiful woman and will be a gorgeous bride. I totally understand your feelings because I am in the same boat. We just have to remember that as the brides, nobody can possibly be more radiant or attention-getting than us!! Trust me on this. Please don’t let your family make you feel bad about how you look especially when you’re starting off comfortable with yourself. You’ll shine and glow in your dress on your day.
Post # 11
Thank you for all the words of encouragement everyone. I feel a lot better =) Guess you always want what you can’t have haha. As long as my FI thinks I’m the most beautiful, I will be happy
I plan to continue running daily and dieting, but now I’m going to focus on doing it to make myself feel better, not to please my family.
@LadyElva: yes, thank goodness for corsets!
@HisMoon: wow, you only have 2 weeks to wait! looking forward to recap pics
@windy001: glad to know it runs both ways lol
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I was bigger than mine… Pretty sure I got all the attention that day! 😉
Post # 13
Trust me, you will definitely be the most gorgeous woman in the room that day!
I’m a size 22… my bridesmaids were both slender and naturally beautiful women. Maybe on a normal day, I’m not the cutest in the group… but with that bridal glow? I felt just as gorgeous as my girls, for sure.
Maybe I’m wrong, but I don’t think anyone would look at this picture and be like, “Damn, look at the fat bride next to her skinny friends!” I think it’s more like, “Damn, look at all those gorgeous people standing next to a totally glowing and beautiful bride!” And I’m sure you will feel the same way on your wedding day! 🙂
Post # 14
The number on the tag has absolutely no meaning when it comes to how beautiful you’ll look and feel on your big day! I am significantly larger than my bridesmaids, too. I’m a 10/12 while they range from size 2-6 (maybe 8 if one of them has eaten too much pizza that week). This won’t matter to my FI and it won’t matter to yours, either!! Chin up and own how fabulous you look in your dress!
Post # 15
@Nferrari: I am bigger than all my bridesmaids as well. Ditto the thought that structure in the dress is a MUST! Also…I found them a very cute dress….but I’m the only one with cleavage…. 😉
Post # 16
Your FI thinks you’re the pretty one so don’t worry about it!