(Closed) Bigger wedding after civil ceremony? (Sorry, kinda long)

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
4676 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Stop listening to these people and plan the day of your dreams! 

Post # 4
678 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

People are so rude. You know your guests and their hearts. Invite the people who love you and support your dreams. Many people have a religious ceremony after the legal one… Sometimes YEARS after. I wanna hug you. 🙁 Don’t listen to those stupid Internet naysayers.

Post # 5
14498 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We had a civil ceremony and a religous ceremony a year later.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with it.  I think that there is anything wrong with wanting the traditional wedding, why shouldn’t you have it?  You go ahead and plan your wedding and don’t listen to any of the neasayers, they don’t deserve your time or energy. 


Welcome to the Hive!

Post # 7
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You should absolutely do what you want, and don’t let strangers on the internet make you feel bad!

Here’s an article from offbeatbride that helped me (I’m in a similar situation as you): http://offbeatbride.com/2010/08/on-vow-renewals-and-getting-weddinged

As for other wedding sites, I’ve found that weddingbee is DEFINITELY the nicest one around. All the ladies here are very supportive, and offer genuine, sincere advice.

Post # 8
321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My guy and I did something similar to this.  We got legally married 12/9/10 (we don’t celebrate, he doesn’t even remember the date), and our family doesn’t even really know about it, save for a select few.  SO we’re having our “real” wedding APril Fools day this year, and that’s going to be our real anniversary (our dating anniversary too, ’cause it’s just awesome).  Don’t stress.  If you want a huge wedding, then by all means, have it.  You don’t even have to use your civil ceremony as your anniversary.  Use the wedding date if you so desire.  Screw the other fools who have gotten you down.  THey’re not worth your breath.

Post # 10
4676 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ntyre:  Horray! A fellow Wisconsinitte!… Unfortunatally unless you can forgo discussing your plans with these people you may just have to grow harder skin around these people.  No matter what these people say you should be able to still have your day.  What is a wedding but a gaint party to celebrate your union together anyways?  It shouldn’t matter if you have already begun your marriage/ relationship or whatever.  

Post # 12
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it is more than okay, especially if so many people who are so close to you missed out. Frankly, whether you call it a second wedding or a vow renewal, it will be a marriage ceremony. It is up to you to set the tone for how this event will be. If you want big, formal, tens of thousands of dollars event– DO IT!!! If you want jeans and tshirts, why not? I think that this is the best time for you to live your dream.


ETA: I wanted to add that since some people couldn’t travel to be at your legal ceremony, be aware that others might not be able to travel to be at the “big/real/dream” one. Don’t be disappointed, but be happy that your family was able to celebrate with you at one or the other or both!

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