(Closed) Biggest Change Fiance to Mrs?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I’m a military wife and it makes a big difference on base to be “official”.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

I definitely feel more like a “grown-up” now, even though I’m not much different from before!  I just feel proud to be someone’s wife and he’s proud to be my husband. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We didn’t live together, so a lot of things feel different!

1. Sex — didn’t have it before

2. Sleeping together every night — had two places before.

Third, and probably the biggest difference, is that I haven’t quetsioned myself on my decision to get married at all. I had a really hard time before the wedding, but since then I haven’t looked back. Marriage rocks!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

definitely the living together, seeing eachother every day, intimacy.

But a lot has been a new identity with a name change!  I started a new job, moved across the country and no one here knew me by my maiden name.  It feels so much like starting over, even though I’ve loved every minute of it.

My hubs has definitely acted differently.  He’s sweeter, goofier and we have so much more fun together than we did the last few months and weeks before the wedding (stress!)  The distance was hard on us and I was worried aout us getting sick of eachother pretty quickly because we weren’t used to seeing eachother, but so far it’s just been so wonderful!  Much more so than I thought!!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009 - Cathedral of the Sacred Heart & The Jefferson Hotel

This is such a good topic, I am getting nervous about the “after” part recently. Not if I’m doing the right thing, but more like what if everything is different or if I will be a bad wife (!!) so its nice to hear the changes from people on the other side!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I was talking to my husband about this just the other day. It DOES feel different for me (but not for him he said). Im not really sure how to describe it though. We lived together before the wedding and our daily lives havent changed (except I have a new last name). I just feel more connected to him, more attached to him (not quite emotionally, but not really physically either). I feel like now he really is my other half. I also feel more like I “belong” in his life, have more significance as hiw wife than his live in gf, or even fiance. idk, it’s really hard to explain. When I was trying to tell hubby he was like “sooo, you just like having the title wife?” which isn’t it either lol I do like the title, just more to it. Am I crazy??

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I don’t think much has changed in our relationship, because we lived together beforehand.  I do think we’re talking a little more about our finances than we did before, now that we have some combined money. 

The biggest change for me has been saying my new name.  I’ve gotten to the point where I can write it or see it written without freaking out, but I just don’t remember to say it.  So if I leave a VM for someone at work or something, I ALWAYS say my old name without thinking.  It’s weird to refer to yourself as someone else!!

I also think it’s weird being called “Mrs.” I’ll be pre-student teaching this fall, so that’s what the kids are going to call me!  It makes me feel kind of old!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

The biggest change for me has had to do with his family. Last week we went to the funeral of a pretty distant relative (like a second-cousin, once removed, I think) and it was strange to think that this is my family, too. Also, his parents are going through some sort of mid-life crisis that seems pretty recent, and it’s certainly affecting me more as my FIL is doing something crazy rather than seeing it as my SO’s father.

Also, on a different note, I’m really starting to worry about how my taxes will go this year. I just found out that I’ll probably lose my student loan interest deduction.

Between the two of us, though, things are just as great as ever! I get giddy when he talks about his wife. 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

I think the biggest change has been getting used to my new name.  We lived together before the wedding and so there wasn’t a lot of change happening besides it was official and my name.  I love hearing him refer to me as his wife though! 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I really dont feel SUPER different being married.  The only main changes are being called “wife”, saying “husband” and my new last name

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think the biggest thing will be the name change and the new “titles”.  We live together and everything already so nothing else is changing.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Not much has changed.  It took some time to get used to hearing my new last name.  I do love hearing him call me his wife. Smile

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