bee123456789 : Thanks for your input! It’s always nice to hear from someone who has experienced this first hand.
ljm308 : I agree, life is different when you have more responsibilites such as bills, etc. I also completely agree with you three factors! After making this post, I keep thinking of many more factors that are needed (trust, faithfulness, etc.) I actually know a 57 year old man (family friend) who is marrying his girlfriend this weekend who does not share the same financial goals whatsoever. She spends, spends, spends, and thinks nothing of it, and continually bails out her daughter, too. We all questioned him many time why he would want to mix up his finances in that (why not keep dating?), but he just doesn’t care. We don’t see it ending well.
browneyedgirl24 : I’m glad your experiences have taught you what you’re looking for. It makes it that much easier to weed out the men who won’t meet your expectations. Of course, you’re right that divorces before 25 are higher. Depending on what statistic you look at, an extra 15 people per 100 (or 15%) will divorce if married under 20, vs over 25 (20-24 was at 20%, vs over 25 at 15%) Source
So while the divorce risk is there, I don’t know if it’s quite high enough to need to call people exceptions, especially since 68 of those 100 marriages don’t divorce.
Of course, like you pointed out, it’s extremely hard to really know anyone on a forum like this. You might meet them in person and completely change your opinion on that specific couple. There’s just too many factors to really tell. It has just come across to me it’s this particular factor gets focused on more than any of the others (education level, length of time dating, number of previous marriages, faith, living together before marriage, finances, children before marriage, etc.)
In fact, having one partner coming from divorced parents increases their risk of divorce by 50%. That is much greater than any age factor. Source