Post # 1
What has surprised you most since you and your FI got engaged? For me, it was how, once we were officially “betrothed”, he sees us as totally a unit. This applies especially to finances – he already refers to everything as “our” money and never hesitates to transfer me money if I need it. He’s insulted if I thank him or offer to pay him back, saying “what’s mine is yours”. Before we were engaged, we split everything 50/50, and he could actually be a penny pincher. I thought he would carry that over into our engagement and marriage, especially since his parents have totally separate finances, but its not been the case at all!
What’s surprised you?
Post # 3
I noticed my guy changed what he talked about/how he talked about things the year we got engaged. If I was more on it, I probably would’ve guessed he was going to propose.
Post # 4
How nice he started being to my parents – they’ve always had a good relationship, but he’s started treating them like family. It’s a very happy surprise for me, and I try to do the same with his parents.
Post # 5
That’s sweet, GirlWithARing! I’ve noticed that some too.
As for signs that FI was going to propose, there were nada! But I did know it was on the horizon at some point. We were talking seriously about marriage and planning a wedding after three weeks!
Post # 6
I’ve noticed that he is now more comfortable about talking about the future 🙂
Post # 7
my fiance became a little more protective and lovey dovey over me. NOT in a creepy way. he says that now that he found his true love he doesn’t want anything t ruin it. (car crash, freak accident, sleezy guys). he knows that i’ll never tire of him so he treats me like a princess=) teehee! when we weren’t he didn’t want to be too lovey dovey….he was afraid it would make me look at him as “unmasculine.”
Post # 8
Good question… To me, it seems like nothing has changed except for how we’re seen by others. We’ve known for a while that we’d get married eventually, and we already lived together and have talked a lot about our future… I didn’t really expect anything to change, but they really haven’t. Maybe that’ll change though- we’ve only been engaged 3 weeks!
Post # 9
Actually, I don’t think i really noticed anything different at all!
Post # 10
same as mizrunzou! i didn’t think anything was really going to change because in my mind, we were already essentially engaged, but we talk about the future so much more openly now. i mean, we’d talked about it before, but now it doesn’t have that uncomfortable “am i saying too much and pressuring him” kind of subtext 😉