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I've been pretty calm about my wedding planning, but I've found when I begin to look for officiants, I get incredibly stressed out, and my stomach starts doing flips, and I continue to put it off because it's so overwhelming to me!
I'm also secretly terrified that my father or his dad will show up (we both don't speak to our dads), and make a scene the day of :(
I mean, that probably won't happen, and I'm sure I'll find a lovely officiant, but those are the two things that are going to keep me up at night as the wedding draws closer...
What is your biggest worry with your wedding planning?
My biggest worry is that I will breakout and look awful (I have bad acne. Sometimes it's under control, sometimes not- and I'm pale, so red spots show through a lot)
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Oh, I have oodles of worries to choose from on a daily basis! Today it's that it'll rain on our wedding day- we have this perfect gazebo chosen for the wedding so we'll be covered, but our 50 guests certainly won't!
I'm also worried that no one will have any fun and that my family will make things incredibly uncomfortable since we're serving alcohol (my side of the family is super religious and thinks drinking of any kind, in any amount, is a sin).
And that the photographer will either be offensive, poor quality, or ignore my photo list.
I'm going to need therapy after the wedding, haha! I'm going to try my best to not freak out. I will fight the Bridezilla within me!
im also worried about my skin. ive had acne for years and its quite unpredictable lately. im doing everything i can to avoid an outbreak, while trying not to do too much, but i just wont know till that day.
going along with that, i hope i look great in the photos. im not worried about him (good looking AND photogenic...sheesh) but im NOT photogenic PLUS the aforementioned acne issue scares me for pics...i know thats what a professional photog is for, but i cant do anything about candid shots by guests and such...
im also nervous that we wont "act ourselves." we're both rather shy and even though we're having a small wedding, i hope the spotlight doesnt make us awkward and waaay nervous.
and of course, i hope everything goes smoothly and everyone has fun.
I agree I think it depends on the day, a different worry arises.
My mom's side of the family provides horrible negative wedding toasts. As a result, I have banned toasts altogether. But I still worry someone will try to steal the podium.
I worry about added costs. I may have figured out all the expenses- but did I triple check to account for gratuity???
I worry that my grandmother who is a hypochondriac will pull something similar to my parents renewal of the vows and coincidently have to be taken to the hospital and not attend. (She likes to have all the attention)
I worry my sister won't be there for me, because she likes to do her own thing.
I worry that people won't have fun, or there won't be enough food, or there will be too much food, it will be too hot or cold...
TWO MONTHS AWAY and I can't believe how much there is to worry about. but lots to look forward to! =o)
We're doing our own flowers and food (well, that's the plan for now) so I'm kinda worried it's not going to come together and we'll be scrambling at the last minute. As organized as I am, I don't think it will be a problem, but I am kind of forgetful so we'll see out it goes.
My venue is known for wind, I'm worried we will have sideways rain @ 70MPH!
I'm worried that there's going to be huge fights between lots of different people.
My parents have been divorced for almost 20 years and they still hate eachother (mind you, it's not like any of the children are little, which would make the parents have to talk to eachother).
FI's female cousin used to date his best friend from high school. She left him for another guy, had a baby, but is still in love with guy #1. The new guy knows it, so there could be issues there. She's already asked me not to sit them all together, as if I was trying to cause drama on my wedding day.
FI's other cousin, recently had "relations" with another one of our friends. Her ex and her son walked in on them, the two guys fought in the common areas of the apartment complex. The whole situation was very messy.
I have to say my fiance is my biggest worry. See he is on deployment right now, and due back about a month before the wedding. We've already changed the date once and I would really hate to have to change it again. 
@kurlynut - Aww, I hope that it works out for you guys! That is one tough worry to have :(
I am worried that the families will cause HUGE issues. FMIL is already trying to start stuff and my mom doesnt get along with FI's mom. Also we are DIYing practically eveything inluding the food and im petrified everything will just fail
I'm worried that my drunk of a brother will try to do or say something really stupid or inappropriate. I'm worried that there will be tons of unforeseen costs, and I'm afraid it will rain, ughhhhh.
I'm a little worried that people won't dance, or that we won't have things finished in time, but mostly I'm calm. I'm sure the worries will kick in soon, though!
@MissStellar - Have you tried using primer and a synthetic hair brush for foundation application? I just started using primer about a month ago (Smashbox Color Correcting Foundation Prmer in green to adjust for red). I was also talked into using a synthetic brush at my make-up trial last weekend. Combined with Make Up Forever's HD make-up, those two things eliminate ALL redness. The primer removes a lot of red before the foundation goes on, and then the brush application seems to apply it thicker than with a sponge. I haven't had more than one or two pimples in this time, but my skin can get very red and none of it (the usual redness or the red from a pimple) shows through with the new primer/brush technique!
My biggest worry is whether or not my little sister will show up. She is supposed to be my Matron of Honor, but ran away and hasn't spoken to our family in about three months. :( I bought her dress for her, just in case she does show up...and I know I will be hoping she does, right up until that moment I walk down the aisle...
@august15bride and all of you with family worries, sending some positive vibes your way!
My biggest worries right now are thankfully nothing major or dramatic...I have have two. I'm worried I'll be getting my period on my wedding day. I'm usually like clockwork, but maybe it was the shorter month because February nearly knocked me a week off my usual cycle!! Before I was certain I'd be done and over with before the wedding day...now it's getting a little too close for comfort =\. I've avoided going on the pill b/c I just hate the idea of putting extra stuff in my body and I think it's too late to go that route, so I'll be spending my time mentally willing my period to happen earlier, lol. I'm also worried about the way I'll look on th wedding. I know I'll be a beautiful bride and all that, but like a poster above, I am quite unphotogenic in pictures...it's something I've accepted about myself but it makes me nervous that the pictures will turn out badly...I do trust my photog though, and she captured some amazing epics for FI and I so I'll just have to stop worrying and trust her to work her magic!
@ august15bride: i can sympathize with your stress! although my sister didn't run away, she had a huge falling out with my parents over something very petty a year ago and refuses to speak with anyone in the family now. my parents are really private people so no one else, not even my relatives, know about this. i don't know if she'll show up at the wedding (i sent her an email, voicemail, and invitation). focus on your wedding day to be about you and your FI! that's what i will try to do.
My biggest wedding worry is the cost of this whole thing. I could have put a down payment on a house for this amount.
Is it too late to elope?
I'm also worried about my in-laws, specifically my FFIL. We don't get along very well, and I keep having these awful visions of him objecting to our marriage! My parents dislike him also (he's not a nice guy), so I'm nervous that there will be tension there. I'm relieved that I'm not the only one who is worried about these issues :-)
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i'm worried about getting sick, crying and having my contacts fall out and then not being able to see, or having diarrhea.
Does anyone else worry about walking down the aisle and saying the vows? I know that sounds really lame, but I have never been thrilled with public speaking and do not like being the center of attention. I would personally be ok with eloping, but it's important to our families (especially his) that we have a wedding. Originally we had planned for 25 people in Savannah and that has since changed to 85 people in Atlanta (long story), and I am so nervous to have that many people looking at me and listening to me speak.
@smokipenelope I really, really want to write and read my own vows, but I'm a HUGE emotional crier, so I know it's going to be super tough. I'm hoping it'll all work out, but stage fright is a tough thing to get over!
I actually have two worries at the moment....
The first is one of my BM is considering backing out of the wedding, which is in 4 days, because she was dating one of the groomsmen and she isn't taking the break up very well..
The other is im rather pale, so when I get nervous I get 'blotchy' and I am wearing a strapless....
I'm worried about everything coming together and not looking sloppy. I'm also worried about my FI wanting to spend more time with our guests than with me (we'll be sure to talk this one out prior to so we can be hospitable but united.)
i worry about something new eveyday. sometimes i wish that the date were sooner so i would stop worrying and then i remember that if it were sooner the money worry would be bigger. the biggest worry i have is the family that has high expectations about weddings. My FI's grandparents are well to put it nicely "stuffy". they are nice but super super formal and opinionated.
hmm, i have lots of worries, where to begin! the one that keeps bugging me lately is that I worry no one will dance. i'd like to have a live band so i know that decision will make a huge impact on people having fun and getting up and dance!
@sc8493: oh my goodness how exciting!!! i'm sending you *good thoughts and wishes* for your wedding!!
I'm so scared that people won't come to our wedding! I'm scared that they're just gonna get the invitation and say to themselves, "Oh, I have something better to do that day." I have a vivid imagination (:
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I'm in the early stages of planning. I have a huge family that lives over 2000 miles away, and I'm not close to most people. I am, however, inviting everyone to my little weekend wedding on the California coast in a cute little resort town. My terror situation is that I plan for the next year for my envisioned small wedding, and then the whole family, for some reason, decides to come and doubles my guest list. It would be a nice problem, in a way, but ah!
I actually wrote a panicked letter to the site I'm most interested in to see if we could put a three sided tent onto the side of the building if necessary to increase size. I love one reception site in particular, and wouldn't want to rent a last minute full tent instead.
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I'm worried about the race/class differences with our families. This will probably be the first party that a lot of my family has ever been too with a bunch of white people and probably the first party with a bunch of black people for his family. I just hope we can all just get along!! :)
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2 guests that I plan on blacklisting that I haven't let neither of my parents know yet, and I will burn in hell before I have them in the same room with me on my wedding day.
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I'm worried about alot of things, particularly our families getting along and breaking the headcount at the reception. Our rehearsal dinner alone is breaking 90 and we only anticiapted 70.
nevertheless.. I'm finding worrying is more of a waste of time and the only thing you can do is have a glass of wine and smile.
I'm worried that I'll walk into the reception and nothing will be set up the way I had imagined... I know this is silly because I'll talk to our DOC and she'll do a great job, but I just have anxiety about.
I'm also worried that people will leave early and not stay and dance. We have a great group of friends and a fun family, but I just have this weird anxiety about people not wanting to hang out.
Weather doesn't worry me or if I get wine spilled on my dress or if one of our three flower girls doesn't make it down the aisle... I can't expect all of that to end up playing out perfect. There's no point in stressing!
Tornado, hurricane, monsoon or thunderstorms.
Our ceremony will be completely outdoors (pray & hope for no rain!) and the reception will be outdoors under a tent. So we can take a little rain for that. But any crazy T-storms or monsoon and it will be miserable. Of course we'll have a indoor backup but since all decisions will revolve around outdoors...
And never mind that I'm in NY and crazy monsoons and hurricanes and tornados don't usually pass through. Mother Nature is a freak! 
Great day!! Though I have my own worries, you guys have given me more to worry about!
My biggest worry is that people who did not get an "and guest" on their invitation will be "red-neck" enough to add a guest. I really don't want to be in the position where I have to call people and tell them, "sorry but we really haven't budgeted for more than the exact number we invited". Is that a good like?
I'm also worried about my dad breaking down because if he does, I know I will.
I'm worried that we invited too many people (175), in hopes of getting no more than 150. Our wedding is June 6 and I didn't sent a save the date out just for that reason. A lot of people start heading out of town on vacations around that time.
I am worried that something will go wrong and I won't be able to roll with it. I'm normally very laid-back, but after all the time and money we've spent on this one day, I am anxious to see if everything will go as planned.
I am also worried that I'll be sick and won't be able to enjoy everything. In the past year, I've had pneumonia, kidney infections, and the regular old flu, and it's landed me in the hospital twice. Ugh.
Also, FI and I met online but hardly anyone knows. I am worried that someone who DOES know will say something to my parents, who do NOT know. I'm sure by then it won't be a big deal, but I am scared to tell my parents. I sound like I'm 18 again!! :-(
I'm worried that the decorations I have in mind won't look cohesive and I'm also worried someone is going to be upset that they're not invited no matter how much I believe they shouldn't be!
I definitely have worries:
1. It will rain. Our ceremony and reception are at the same place, but having an outdoor ceremony will be really nice.
2. Many of my invited guests won't come. I have a few friends who I really love that live in other countries or far away states, and I am afraid they won't come. Also many of our invited guests that will most likely be coming are on FI's side, so I'm worried that I will be surrounded by lots of people that I won't know as well. There's nothing wrong with that, but it's nice to be surrounded by the people you truly care about.
3. I second Yogigal with the "diversity" of guests that will coming to my wedding. I don't think it will be a huge problem, but his side in particular in no used to very much cultural diversity (case in point, I was the only non-white person at his brother's wedding last year and that included the servers). This also is going to be interesting in terms of the music we play since I'll want Carribean music played as well.
4. People will be bored and not dance. My friends will but it may be just us on the dance floor. Maybe that's not such a bad thing though :)
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