Post # 1
*This could be a split family/ceremony post, so feel free to move it!
My BIL is, as of this moment supposed to be our officiant. But, he and my sister have been having a rough time of it lately. Like, really rough.
And obviously officiating our wedding is not on his list of things he’s concerned about right now, so I haven’t even mentioned it, and I feel REALLY weird about even the idea of bringing it up when they have all this potentially life changing arguing going on.
What would you do–find a backup? Hope it all blows over in the next month and a half?
I could be worrying about nothing, but if they continue this way, it could be something.
Post # 3
Honestly, I would find someone else. You don’t really know what is going to happen in the near future and you ned to cement your officiant. Go with the sure thing–then you won’t have any worries. This is a difficult family situation, and you must stay out of the mix. Best wishes.
Post # 4
@sudslover: completely agree.
Post # 5
Is he a pastor/someone legally authorized to do weddings? Or did he do the internet thing to get ordained just for your wedding?
I would definitely consider a back up option, even if it means finding a friend who can speak/lead you through your vows/etc. and then heading to the courthouse the day before the wedding (or just after the honeymoon) to make it legal.