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His family is in the wrong for not being accepting, don't let that keep you from getting whatever cake topper you want.
@Natalieh86: but do you think that's disrespectful on my part?
If they come to the wedding, its not as if they dont know you are black, so yeah i would go with the biracial cake topper. if they dont agree with your union, they dont have to come.
@Vintage-me: i see your point but i do want his family there and i dont want them to not like me.
@sahlaneywedding: If they're offended by interracial marriage from the get go, I'm fairly certain a cake topper won't put them over the edge anymore than watching the marriage itself take place. Get the cake topper you want!!!
I'm sorry you're having to even question this decision :( But you seem to be handling it very well and I think that's great. Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials!!!!
@sahlaneywedding: disrespectful? no way! you're proud of who you are, be them! know the funny thing... you and I have the same last name! lol
No, i understand and maybe i should have said it a little better, what i meant was, they know your colour, and if they decide to come to your wedding, then take it as a sign that they have accepted you......(if they really didnt like you they wouldnt come) and given that the people that DO come and have accepted you, then so too will they accept that for you its pretty normal to want a biracial cake topper. whats so unusual about it if it mimicks the couple perfectly?
Just remember....your wedding day is YOUR day, do it how you want to.
I say screw them. You and your fiance are getting married, you're obviuosly biracial... a cake topper shouldn't shock/offend. Obviously they're aware of this and hopefully if they're there they support you guys no matter waht.
go with the biracial cake topper. If this offends them, then they're easily offended people and not worth tiptoeing around.
@sahlaneywedding: you are simplifying this way too much... if they are offended by the cake topper they are offended by your relationship. And that is their problem not yours!
You are BLACK and he is WHITE, it is what it is and accept it and be comfortable with it and if they are there and have a problem with it... they can take their ignorant thoughts and leave. It is your day!
I would have to agree with KristenGettingMarried. Go with the cake topper that you want.
@aicila: I appreciate the feedback. I was just looking for an opinion from my fellow bees, trust me I have not over simplified the issue in the past lol
I am black and my SO is white, and we are both lucky enough to have it be consider "normal" by our families.
Don't let anyone make you feel bad about who you are or who you love. The cake topper (at least traditional ones) represent who you are. Its like telling someone with brown hair to have a blonde cake topper...makes no sense,
If you're black and he's white.. it makes total sense to go with a biracial cake topper. Ignore them and do what you want. I'm sure it will be amazing.
i hardly think you are being disrespectful or too forward by wanting a cake topper that truly represents the two of you. I hope you will go with the biracial topper.
Let me know where you find a biracial cake topper, I never thought of that!!!!!!!!
It's not pushy and if it's a statement that's important to you, go for it. The path of least resistance woudl be go with just porcelain or some sort of monotone cake-topper where race doesn't factor in. Or, like, animals or something. There are workarounds but don't compromise on it just because some people are racist.
I think they should be able to handle a biracial cake topper. It's not pushing it in their faces, but representing the two of you.
I definitely don't think it's disrespectful or pushy. It's just you two! Like a PP said, it's not like they don't know you two aren't the same race already, right? A cake topper won't be a big deal so get the one you want. :)
I think that you should get the cake topper that you want. I dont see anything offensive about a biracial cake topper. Its you guys, go with what you two want.
I join the chorus of PPs, get the cake topper you like! If the first time they really realize that you're a biracial couple is when the see the cake, then they've got other issues :-P You are who you are as a couple, those who are at your wedding should support your union, and you don't need to change your cake topper to avoid ruffling feathers.
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I would really like a biracial cake topper. I am black and my husband (future) is white. Will his family be offended or should I just stick with a traditional cake topper with no color/race? I guess some of his family is not keen on the idea of inter racial marraige and I dont want to have to push it in their faces anymore, thoughts?