Post # 1
I purchased this Bird Cage Veil which I think is beautiful.. but my mom thinks it is the most horribly ugly thing and has had no reservations about expressing that to me.. Now i feel nervous about my wedding look which i thought looked perfect with my beaded trumpet gown.. any thoughts on what i should do??? I have thought about purchasing another veil.
Post # 3
i think it’s beautiful! i, too, am wearing a trumpet gown with a birdcage veil.
maybe your mom will warm up to it? she probably had a specific idea of what a bride should look like in her head, and this veil doesn’t fit that.
Post # 4
Thank You! I think your right maybe once she sees the whole look together she will warm up to it. We will both get the opportunity to see it when I take my bridal portraits before the wedding.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2008 - Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)
I wouldnt worry about it – if you love it than thats all that count. My mom hated my hair – and when i mean hated she told everyone that she did… and didnt like my birdcage veil (she was actually happy that i forgot it at home)
I felt beautiful and if I had to do it again – i would have my "ugly" hair and my birdcage veil. I looked beautiful and felt like the prettiest bride. I say wear it! Its a beautiful veil
Post # 6
I think the veil is gorgeous. Do you know what in particular your mother does not like about it? It may be, as previous commenters suggested, that it does not fit her "bride" image. Also, perhaps it was a matter of how you had it pinned on? When I first tried on my birdcage veil my mother tried to be supportive, but once I played with it and adjusted it "just so," she breathed this exagerated sigh of relief and told me how much better it looked and how scared she was when I first put it on. I’m sure that both of you seeing it with the dress will help everyone appreciate the look.
Post # 7
I lvoe the birdcage veil… and its gorgeous! 🙂
Post # 8
I love it! I totally agree with MrsCPT, play around with it a bit to make it just right and perhaps your mom will change her tune. If not, just remember that everyone has different opinions and ultimately, this has to be your decision. Personally, I think its hot!
Post # 9
I think the veil is beautiful. Maybe you could get a more traditional one to wear during the ceremony and then change to the bird cage veil for photos and the reception.
Post # 10
That’s tough–I know I would find it hard if my Mum didn’t like my wedding day look. After all, she’s your Mum and she’ll be gazing at you all day….so you’d probably like to think she thinks you look beautiful. Unfortunately, your mum just doesn’t appreciate your bold yet classy style, but that dones’t mean you shouldn’t let it shine! I’m wearing a semi-beaded trumpet gown with a birdcage veil too, and I have pretty much decided that some people are just not going to like it, and too bad for them…….I’m just hoping West Coast Groom isn’t one of them!
Post # 11
I think it’s a beautiful veil, but maybe if your mom isn’t wild about it and her opinion is important to you, you could compromise. How would you feel about wearing a more traditional veil that your mom would like for the ceremony, and then your fun, funky birdcage for the reception?
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2018 - Pier Sixty, Chelsea Piers
I love your veil! My mother wasn’t very into my birdcage veil either, but I wore it anyway and felt great! She came around on the veil when she saw that I looked and felt great so no commentary was made!
Post # 13
I love the veil! It’ll look so beautiful on the wedding gown you described. I get to wear one as part of the Sri Lankan ceremony we’re doing. I’m looking for a mantilla for the ceremony. I also chose a birdcage for the reception and can’t wait to wear it with my sari! My mom didn’t like the veil I chose so I respectfully told her to suck it. 😉
Post # 14
I also am a Bird Cage Veil girl. I got my veil BEFORE my dress. I was too was concerned when i got my dress , if it "didn’t go". But I love my veil , it’s the only veil i feel comfortable in and in the end it’s what’s important to me.
BTW. My mom thinks that me walking down to "you are my sunshine" is ‘tacky’ and my pink shoes are a disaster. Let you mom know you value her thoughts but you REALLY had your heart set on this , all you ask is for her support.
Post # 15
My mom hated my veil. It was a drop veil and it wasn’t like the one my sister wore: the traditional bride-esque look. She didn’t like my dress all that much either but it’s not about her, it’s about how you feel and see yourself. I felt good about my choices and after awhile of having hurt feelings and second guessing myself I decided to tell my mom that her opinion really hurt and that I liked how I looked. Upon hearing that she said that it wasn’t what she envisioned for me but that she was sure I’d be beautiful anyway. I know we aren’t the only ones that dream of our future wedding days, our moms do too. Be confident in your choice if you like it and feel gorgeous. Your look radiates how you feel and when you feel good that’s what people notice.
Post # 16
I love the veil! Don’t forget that its not about what Mom likes, this is your day, don’t second guess yourself. If it makes you feel any better, my fiancee laughs every time I put mine on to try to find a good placement for it, he says I look like I am getting ready to "fly off", errrrrrr…….