"Birth binder" for the coaches — what should I include?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@iarebridezilla:  Wow. I had no idea it was so complicated. I had a plan to just pack a bag and go to the hospital. Is that wrong? 😛 Lol.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@iarebridezilla:  Maybe little cards folded into paper airplanes that you can fling toward them when they inevitably irritate you?  They could be unfolded to show words of apology 😉

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@iarebridezilla:  I have to have a c-section anyway, so I feel that my whole birthing process will be extremely scripted and I will have little to no control. I admire women who opt to do it naturally, even with the invention of all those wonderful drugs 😀 I could never do it, so kudos to you.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You should include things NOT to say to me to make me feel better LOL

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@iarebridezilla:  So far, so good.  You’re on the right track 🙂  I will point out that there was not a lot of reading or downtime when I was laboring in the hospital.  I would suggest that you discuss with them and even practice some of the positions so they know what you’re talking about.

Things I found to be helpful:  all fours position, leaning over the back of the bed, counter pressure on my hips, tennis ball massage on my lower back, cool rag on my neck & forehead, and most importantly over anything else ever- reciting my positive birth affirmations.

I wrote them out on note cards, just like in middle school.  DH taped them to the wall in case I used them as a focal point (I didn’t, my eyes were closed most of the time, but the doulas, DH, and my friend read them aloud to me)

They also used some aromatherapy, dimmed lights, and at one point a heat pack on my lower back.  I threw up soon after the lavendar sachet was placed under my pillow so it may have been too intense or I was transitioning and would have puked anyway.  The heat was too intense and I asked them to remove it, but you might find it very helpful.  I am not sure I noticed the dimmed lights, so it may have helped, maybe not, I have no idea.

But seriously- be confident.  You can do this.  🙂

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@iarebridezilla:  A thread about preparing for birth?  You know I can’t resist!!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

like this is some kind of raggedy-ass book club where you can fake your way through or maybe wait for the movie to come out.”  Best. Line. Ever.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I literally LOL’ed at the raggedy-ass book club. My officemate is like, what’s going on over there?

As a person who would totally make one of those binders, who is married to someone who would then give my birth binder the biggest side-eye of all time, my gentle suggestion is trying to condense all of this information into a couple of pages with very clear directions. I can picture my husband skipping past all talk of philosophies, but really appreciating the part where I say, “If I say X, you do Y. If I am exhibiting Z, I am probably in back labor so you should do X. If the nurse wants to give me an epidural, the answer is no. And here are some helpful things for you to say to encourage me!” 

If they aren’t interested enough to get through the book, they might not make it through the binder either, you know? I’d consider sticking with very clear and concise directions and saying, if you’re interested in the philosophy behind these choices, we can discuss it in person at some time when I don’t have a human being trying to make their way out of my ladyflower.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@KatieBklyn:  Ladyflower?  HAHAHHA OMG I SNORTED!!!!!!!!

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