I’m using STM of the FAM method. In the book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility, it will also guideline how to start if your coming off BC. I’ve never been on BC, but from what I understand, it takes a bit for your fertility to come back, anyways… or at least regularly. If you start with STM, you’ll be able to learn WHEN you are fertile to hopefully delay pregnancy for now and then achieve it quickly when your ready.
Basically you check your temp. because it will tell you if/when you ovulated, as well as when you can expect your period.
You check your cervical fluid. The sperm needs the right conditions to make it to your egg. So, by evaluating when in the cycle you are with what kind of cervical fluid you have, you can see if you are potentially life giving.
You can also check your cervical position. This is a secondary sign, however. Your cervix is high, soft, and open when fertile and low,closed, and hard when not.
And there’s more.
Basically, you learn what your body is doing and have references to cross check your signs. You are typically only fertile about 5 days. Sperm can live for 5 days and your egg is about 24 hrs. So, on BC, you are inserting hormones to deal with something that is only possible about 5 days of the month. Of course, for best results you’ll want to give yourself some buffer room on those 5 days 🙂 Some will either wear a condom or abstain completely. Just be aware that if you do not choose to abstain (STM with abstinence has the highest success rate of ANY BC) and choose to use a barrier method, you will be subjected to the failure rate of the method you choose. i.e. The failure rate of a condom. If your BC fails, it will only fail during your fertile window.
There’s a lot of info on the hive and that book is excellent!
The good new is, if you were to get pregnant tonight, you won’t be affected at your wedding, save for the champagne toast. And, if you are trying to conceive soon anyways, the timeline isn’t that far off.
All the best and keep us updated!