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Yes, I've talked to my OBGYN about it and she said it's the biggest complaint about being on the pill. I stopped taking it for 2 months and my sex drive was back! It was great! But I'm back on to regulate my period for the wedding. I'm pretty sure I'll stop after we get married, I feel bad not wanting to do anything. I honestly, don't even think about it!
I actually have the same problem... I have tried so many different kinds of BC that it made me crazy! I am currently on Yaz, which has had the least amount of side effects for me... the only side effect that I have is low libido. My boyfriend is getting kind of resentful about it... but he also doesn't want me to get knocked up! If you figure out natural ways to stay on the pill and raise your libido... let me know!
I would highly rec the book; "Taking Charge of your fertility" to you. You can find them used on Amazon for really cheap or locally at your barnes and noble, etc.
We're using the Symto-Thermal method of Fertility Awareness Method, and there's quite a few bee's on here who have been using it "successfully" for years. It's really awesome, and I've learned so much about my body, and I've been learning about things I might freak out about that are actually normal. I can also now tell exactly WHEN I'm going to be crabby :-) On top of all that, It's FREE, there's no added hormones going into water streams or affecting the environment, no side effects like weight gain, loss of sex drive, etc...
Yes, I have definitely noticed this!!! It's so annoying! Unfortunately, since we're in no position to even think about having a baby right now, i don't really have any other options...Could you switch your pill? Sometimes I've heard that helps...
Me. It totally affects my sex drive but I can't go off it. It keeps my endometriosis at bay and there is no way I'm going to tempt fate by risking it coming back just for sex! My periods were always horrendous, too (um, i'd take VICODIN for 5 out of the 7 days just to function. We're talking 1.5-2 boxes of tampons every month, too. Ridicuous, right? yeah).
I've been on like, 4 different kinds but the one i'm on now (seasonal) makes me the most emotional (i avoid sappy movies) but also I don't break through it like i did the other ones.
For me it's sort of a necessary evil. AFter we have kids I'd like to go with a Mirena or copper IUD insert or something of that nature.
Anyways, I don't even WANT sex until we're halfway through fooling around. It takes awhile and there is no sponteneity about it, but honestly, i'm more willing if i'm relaxed (which means not on work and school nights) and if i'm in a romantic mood. A back massage usually makes me feel more lovey dovey amorous. Otherwise i'm in work/clean/make lunch/shower/study/life requirement mode, which isn't sexy. It's not the sex i necessarily crave, libido-wise, but the closeness that comes with it.
Trailmix - you do have other options, ones that are completely natural... unless like ejs4y8 you're taking it for medical reasons there ARE alternatives that are rated just as protective as BC or even more so depending on the method. Seriously, I really do rec. that book, there ARE alternatives!
I have noticed the same thing.I have been on almost every type of birth control and it only happens when I am on the pill. It definately stinks, but definately don't want any more babies before the wedding:)
My problem is my husband and I want to start trying for a baby this summer so changing pills is not an option right now. The more I think about it I feel like I should just stop taking it and use other forms of BC until we are 100% ready.
Have you looked into an IUD? They don't have any hormones, they last for 10 years (the non-hormonal one), and they're a lot cheaper than pills! Plus, once its in you don't have to think about taking it. Its a really good option for people who are bothered by hormonal birth control and much more effective than natural family planning (in that the user error is nill - no planning, no charting, just put it in once and you're done).
I thought I was defective for a long time because I didn't know BC was the problem. We are getting married in the spring and plan to start our family in the fall/winter so I am going to stay on this pill for now. But once our family is complete, I think the IUD is the way to go.
Yes! I've tried EVERY type of hormonal BC ... I will go on it for about 5 months and then slowly everything goes downhill, and not only does it kill my sex DRIVE but it changes the consistency of my hmm..umm... fluids? So even if I am in the mood, my body doesn't respond the way it should, and makes intimacy painful.
ATM we are not using any form of BC outside of withdrawal, (when I went off nuva ring we were supposed to be using condoms, but you know how well THAT goes lol) he knows the deal, and while we're not looking to make a baby, if it happens then it happens.
I honestly think my body is just trying to tell me that whacking out my hormones like that isn't good for me, and with a high instance of breast cancer in my family I'm done adding to my risk factors.
My doctor tried to talk me into implanon, the implant- but I have NO interest in putting something under my skin that would have to be surgically removed if it didn't work right- like all the other options. Same with an IUD- (I haven't had kids) so I don't qualify for morena (idk how to spell it.. sorry, the hormonal IUD)
The implant is actually becoming much more popular, as well as IUD's. IUD's got a really bad wrap for a while, but they have really improved the manufacturing and supplies used in them. I had a copper IUD (the one without the hormons) for about 2 years. My periods progressively became worse and worse and had to have it taken out. ithen got pregnant and have since been on progestone only pills, which are the same hormones as the Mirena.
I had the same problem! Prior to meeting my FI, I went off for almost 9 months and my sex drive came back w/ a vengance!! Hahahaha but then when I went back on it, it was dead after a monht or 2. Spoke to my OB/GYN and she said its one of the most common problems w/ BC. She switched me to Necon (generic brand I think) - and it came back!! And the bonus? I only get my period for 1-2 days!! Its another great side effect she said.
What about the Nuva Ring? Have you tied that? I would also talk to your OB/GYN. They can usually recommend something different.
Oh - and you don't have to have already had kids to have an IUD. That's a fairly common misconception (even among doctors), having already had kids means there are slightly fewer side effects, but they're perfectly safe among women who haven;t had children yet.
I'll raise my hand on this one! Totally KILLED my sex drive. I've kinda just given up until we're ready to go off the pill and do the withdrawl method for awhile til we start TTC. I genuinely look forward to the day when my libido returns! And my biggest fear is that it never will!
Im also in this situation as well. I have been on all different kinds of BC for about 10 years. My husband and I don't want to have kids anytime soon if at all. He has thought about a Vasectomy, but we both feel its too soon to make that kind of choice yet.
At this point Im not sure what to do, except to just "deal" with it.
Same here. I HATE it! I've looked into alt./natural methods but I'm not changing anything until we're married. I don't even want to try to get pregnant until we have a bigger place too - there's just no room. I'll give it about a year after the wedding. I'd like a 1yr Anniv. first.
THANK GOD someone feels the same way as me! I thought I was going crazy! Ive been on BC for aboutttt 2 years now? and I find the longer I am on my BC pills the lower my sex drive gets. I just dont want it much and it makes me sad. :(
By the way,
WHY would anyone use the withdrawel method? That is SO SO RISKY! You can get pregnant just off the pre-cum from fooling around. it only takes one sperm people....thats a really risky method...
yes. i've only been on the patch for 8 months but i can tell. i want to go off of it actually but then i'd worry about getting pregnant.
I am on the pill AND an anti-depressant
I have ZERO drive. This is terrible to say because I am a newlywed....but I honestly would be fine with having no sex at all at this point.
My only hope if that when we are going to try for a baby....I will be off all these meds. I have been on them so long.....but I hope that my drive will come back
Hmm... Now this got me thinking. I always thought it was strange that I had a low sex drive. I think we may have done it approximately 1 time a month before we were married... YES, 1 time a month. Maybe it had to do with the BC. I do know that the condoms always hurt me no matter how arroused I was prior so I think that had to do with it too.
I have to tell you that once we were off the pill, we were like rabbits :). Pregnancy hasn't stopped it either. I definitely have an increased sex drive since I have been preggie. Unfortunately, because the hubs has a herniated disc we stopped for a little but now that he is feeling better... watch out now! :)
It's good to hear that a lot of you felt things got better once you stopped the pill. I am now officially off the pill. My one question is - When did everyone notice their sex drive coming back (1 week, 1 month, 6 months, etc.)?
I've noticed this too and at first, I had no idea that it was due to going on the pill (my doc didn't mention that as a potential side effect.) My FI is really understanding about it but it makes me sad to be missing that drive, its really hurt our intimacy.
I think I want to go off it, but the reason I went on in the first place was to help with cramps (I was not sexually active at the time.) I'm afraid of my cramps coming back and getting pregnant if I do go off the pill. I guess I'll just have to weigh those things with my fiance.
Did anyone here experience any NEGATIVE effects when they went off the pill?
@ amariem - I LOVED LOVED the patch. Agh, it was awesome. But it made me insane, I was so moody. But oh.. that 1 week when I took the patch off made me super erm... eager. ;)
I had issues with that on the pill, but never have had an issue while using the Nuva Ring (it's apparently a lower dosage). It caused huge problems for us, he felt unwanted, I felt like he only wanted one thing, etc etc, then a lightbulb clicked on and I switched BC's :)
I have this problem on every BC I've been on :( It's depressing... I'm on Yaz and as far as I know that is the lowest dose in a BC pill.
I feel like he's upset b/c we don't have sex as often and I want to want it, but I just don't. It makes me sad :(
I've been on bc since I was 13...I'm 24...and I hate it. My periods used to be so bad when I was a teen that I had to be hospitalized because I was so anemic at one point. I've been on everything and anything...it all makes me either gain weight, break out, I have no sex drive, drives me insane...and most recently I have developed blood clots after I took Yasmin and Yaz for 3.5 years. Apparently according to my doctor, when you suffer from severe migraines (like I do, have had to be hospitalized because of those too) and are on bc you can be at a higher risk for blood clots especially if taking bc that has estrogen. I've recently been put on a "mini pill" which is progesterone only, so we'll see how I feel on that. If not, my husband is encouraging me to call it quits on bc since we plan to start TTC around September. When it comes down to it, it just down right sucks!
I'm dealing with the exact same issue.
I was on the pill for 4 years straight, but was on them on and off because of painful periods. When I was off them I had to workout intensively and completely change my diet or else I would pay for it. It was a pain. When I got back on them my drive began to decline and I didn't realize it was the Pill! I was almost worried I didn't love my FI anymore or he was being too demanding (he would try to initiate sex like once and I would kinda chew his head off...it felt like someone was asking me to take out the trash). Just recently I took a mini break from the pill because I needed to change doctors and WOW THE DIFFERENCE. It was incredible I felt like a teenager again lol! It was like I was trying to catch up.
A week later I'm back on and sex feels like a chore again. I would get off them but I HATE the pain, the nausea. It makes me really regret being a woman. I wish there was a simple solution to it.
Wow, so glad to find this thread!! This is a major problem for us. I'm gonna be 33 next month, getting married next year, and really would like to start TTC around Christmas 2011 or so. so I'm not looking for a long term or surgical solution. I just wanna feel frisky again!!!
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Has anyone out there had problems with BC and low sex drive? I just got married 6 months ago and have been on the Pill for 10 years and its killing my sex drive and making me worry that it will effect my marriage.