Post # 1
So I am recently married and also I recently got on birth control, the nuvaring to be exact. We don’t want to have children at this point and want to enjoy being us for a couple years. Problem is we are still using condoms because we are scared I’ll somehow get pregnant. I want to get off of birth control if this is the case bc it’s pointless. Also I have not been feeling well and my mother thinks it’s the birth control. One last thing, I have like no sex drive right now, could this be from the birth control? It’s pretty bad, we’ve been married 3weeks and have had sex maybe 5 times, that’s bad right? I’m just not in the mood and usually don’t feel well and I think that adds to it. I need help, any other birth control, maybe natural? Or any advice, please help! 🙂 thank-you!
Post # 3
You dont have to be on birth control.. Just dont have sex when you are ovulating, which is only a couple days. I recommend you Read the book ‘ what to expect before you are expecting ‘.. On the other hand, sometimes you need to give the bc a few months to get used to. And then it will be like its not even there. Sex drive will probably come back. Good luck!
Post # 4
I’m on NuvaRing and mostly love it… really I just love not having to remember it everyday. I was on other pill forms of BC that made me have no desire at all and it was awful. I mean I would usually give in to FH’s advnaces but I just didn’t care to initiate and that is FAR form normal me! If you just started it though it’s somewhat normal to not feel good. Whenever I have changed to a new BC aI would havea good month of nausaea and bad headaches and insane mood swings. Some peopel don’t have any of that but if you do it goes away. I would feel safer on bc and having him just pull out if you’re really concerned than no bc and just using condoms… but that’s just ME.
Post # 5
Nuvaring doesn’t mess with my hormones as much as other types of BC. It’s probably just because you are getting used to the hormones. You are having sex more than a lot of married couples so it’s not a bad thing. Life is stressful, it’s not like we can all run around naked constantly lol.
As for the worrying about getting pregnant, you are actually more likely to get pregnant just using condoms than just using Nuvaring but you should get the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It teaches you about NFP.
I hope you find something that works for you!
Post # 6
I have never tried nuvaring, but I did have horrible side effects on my first BC pill (ortho tri). My PA thought I was making stuff up about how bad I was feeling. I am now on LoEstrin 24 FE and LOVE it. I have absolutely no side effects and a very short withdrawal bleed period (24 hrs at most). I would stick with the nuvaring for a few more months and see if it evens out, but if you are feeling misrable, then I would switch.
Keep in mind too that BC in most forms has between a 95-99% effectiveness at preventing pregancy, and a condom only has about 85% effectiveness. But dont feel bad…we still use both to give extra protection.
Post # 7
A) Nuvaring is more effective at preventing pregnancy than condoms are. So if it’s the condoms/Nuvaring thing that’s most bothersome, stop using condoms.
B) There are MANY non-hormonal forms of birth control Spermidical sponges and diaphragms are what I would recommend. Natural family planning could work in combination with condoms. Nuvaring, however, is FAR more effective than these other methods.
My Nuvaring side effects were mild (PMSy 24/7), but I was SOOOO happy when my husband let me know he was OK with TTC six months earlier than planned.
Post # 8
Make sure that you continue to use condoms for at least one cycle so that your body can get used to the additional hormones in your system. Once you have been on the BC for a couple of months, then you can probably quit using condoms. I was on Nuva Ring for 5 years and the only time we used condoms was when I was on antibiotics and we never had a scare.
On the other hand, if you aren’t feeling normal check with your doctor about different forms of birth control. There is normally at least one that will work for you without making you feel not normal. Sometimes its guess and check.
Post # 9
I had no sex drive on the birth control pill and I just didn’t feel like myself so I stopped taking it and started just using condoms, and I feel like a different person. Wish I got off the Pill sooner! I’ll never go back on it.
Post # 10
@QBbride: I second this. I’ve never been on Nuvaring but I was on the pill and hormonal birth control was just NOT for me. It killed my sex drive and made me feel terrible. I was constantly bloated and nauseated.
I came off hormonal BC 10 months ago and felt so much better!
Post # 11
I just wish I figured out sooner that the pill was what was making me feel so crappy! It was actually my fiancé who suggested it…
Post # 12
i used nuvaring,before being preganant, and i got tired of it.
i asked my doctor, about a good birth control. she suggest mirena. wich works for 3 to 5years, it all depends on when are you planning to have children,
the patch is good too
Post # 13
I had issues with Nuvaring… i was sick to my stomach, and I didn’t feel like myself. I recommend reading the book “Taking Control of your Fertility” by Toni Weschler. It was really informative about helping me to understand what my body was doing and why. Also, the first weeks of marriage were rough for me too 😉 It gets better.
Post # 14
I agree with everyone that says to read TCOYF!