Post # 1
I am new to this forum, and this is my first post.
I am 23, my fiance is 27, and we are getting married this coming year, so I am seeking out different birth control options to look into.
Due to religious reasons, my fiance and I are both virgins, so this is new terrain for us.
Neither of us *ever* want to have children. This is something that we will not change our minds on at any point in the future due to a few reasons (a main one being mental disorders run in both sides of our family-thankfully dodged us- but affect our siblings, another that miscarriages were a major problem for both our mothers, and other reasons, for the sake of brevity, I will not get into).
Hormone based BC make me nervous mainly due to the fact that I easily gain weight already, and have to keep an eye on it, and I certainly do not want to fall victim to mood swings.
That being said, I am very interested in what has worked for you, how long you have been on it, if there were any side effects,and anything else you could add that can be of help!
Post # 3
@sunshine15: If you are certain you’re not having kids, I highly recommend your fiance gets a vasectomy. It has lots of upsides and almost no downsides: no hormones, highly effective, extremely low chance of side effects (including no effect on his sex drive that I noticed!), quick and (relatively) cheap, and far safer and cheaper than you getting your tubes tied. Its effectiveness can easily be checked by him getting a semen sample checked.
Our story: I went on the pill (hormonal control) a couple of months before our wedding (we were virgins too). One good side effect is it allowed me to time my period to avoid my wedding day! But I didn’t like the hormonal effects and went off it a few months later. Then we used condoms for a few years until we were ready for kids (and in between kids), and after that my husband had a vasectomy.
Post # 4
@sunshine15: I second @paula1248: ‘s suggestion of your husband getting a vasectomy: it’s relatively simple, and very reliable, and assuming you live somewhere where you have to pay for birth control, long-term it’s cost-effective.
Failing that, the only non-hormonal methods are the copper IUD, diaphragms, natural family planning, and condoms. Of those, the IUD would be my choice as diaphragms are fiddly and not as reliable, I dislike condoms due to the feel, and I would find proper natural family planning a hassle (it’s quite involved) plus although it can be very effective when done properly, I don’t think I’d ever feel comfortable relying on it.
Don’t discount hormonal methods though; weight gain isn’t a given, particularly with lower-dose methods like the progestogen-only pill (POP) and the Mirena IUS. I personally have tried the combined pill (Microgynon), the Depo Provera injection, the Mirena IUS and the POP (cerazette). I gained weight with Microgynon (12 pounds over 6 months; however it was because I was eating more, I was also an age where I would likely have begun to gain weight anyway (15)) and the Depo injection (14 pounds; could NOT shift it despite dieting, and I definitely wasn’t eating more; it literally piled on out of nowhere). I didnd’t gain with the Mirena IUS or with Cerazette; I’ve been on Cerazette for 3 years now and it’s my favourite method by far.
Post # 5
i third the vasectomy if you are absolutely sure you don’t ever want children.
i was on BCP for 14 years. when i first started it, my boobs went up a cup size but no other side effects. when i went off BCP in june, my cycle went back to exactly 28 days right away.
Post # 6
I also would consider getting a vesectomy, if you are sure you are never going to want kids.
If you don’t want to do that just yet – maybe try a IUD? I use Mirena, which is hormonal, but has a much lower dose of hormones than the pill/nuva ring. You could also try Paragaurd.. also an IUD but no hormones. You have to change it every 5 years. I LOVE it!
Post # 7
@sunshine15: Welcome to the hive!
I found the coil best for me, except it made my periods heavy and gave me cramping. The first one after it was fitted was the worst. The cramping subsided after a year but it would take my breath away. However, I much preferred this to the pill as it dis-agrees with me.
Post # 8
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For him, a vas is the best option.
If a vas is not an option, then your best options are either an IUD (lasts from 5-10 years depending on which one you get) or implant (last around 3 years). They are long lasting and you don’t have to worry about remembering to take a pill every day at a certain time.
Post # 9
I had the copper IUD (10 years) and I LOVE it! I check my strings every month and that’s it. My doctor did tell me it may make my periods heavier for the first few months but I have not had that issue at all.
Post # 10
I would look at a copper IUD if you don’t want hormones. As PP said, a vasectomy is really the best if you’re both absolutely sure on it.
I used BCP for 16 years and it was a life saver for me! I didn’t have any bad side effects (or even weight gain) but I know some people have some issues. If you’ve never tried it before, it could be worth a try to see if it works for you. But I might try the copper IUD first.
Post # 11
I have a copper iud and I absolutely recommend it!