Post # 1
Okay, so obviously I don’t know anything about this stuff because I am still a virgin. But I am planning on taking birth control, right now, so I am okay for our honeymoon. My question, is what is your guys’ thinking on only taking BC and no condoms. Do you think it is just as safe as if you were to do both? I just don’t want to get pregnant right now, we need some time to be financially stable.
Post # 3
@KearlSC: My fiancé and I have used birth control exclusively for over three years. We do not pull out normally, and we have never had a pregnancy scare. Just make sure you take it extremely regularly, and have been taking it for at least a month before you become sexually active. Of course, all doctors will tell you to pair it with condoms, but we have had good luck as have many other couples. It’s all up to you of course, but I just wanted to let you know that I have full faith in my birth-control!
ETA: when I say birth control, I mean the pill! And I do take the placebo week…I don’t take packs back/back to skip the withdrawal bleed, incase that matters at all
Post # 4
I was on the Pill for 8 years (different brands, but consistently on the Pill) and still used condoms or pulled out for the most part. Not b/c I didnt use it correctly- I just felt more comfortable with the extra protection.
You really shouldn’t need to. The Pill is 99% effective when used as prescribed. The Pill takes about a month to be effective. So if you start taking it now you should be fully protected by your honeymoon. Just make sure you take it properly and you’ll be fine
It’s very good to recognize you are not financially ready for kids. Good for you! If you have insurance, the Pill shouldn’t even require a copay if you take a brand with a generic, so it should be free. Which is awesome! It is really about your comfort level. If you feel nervous, use a condom, too.
Also, when you get your prescription, ask your doctor about Gardasil. It is the vaccine for the HPV strains that most commonly cause cervical cancer. Even if you and your FI are both virgins, HPV is spread from just skin to skin contact, so one of you could have it if you’ve ever been close to anyone else. I really think even if you haven’t, you should get it. It’s a lot of protection for very little cost (it was free under my insurance).
Personally, the best Pill I was ever on was Ortho-tri-cyclen. It worked for me for a long time with no side effects. But you may need to try a couple to find one that you feel best on. If you have to switch pills once you start, follow your doctor’s instructions and you won’t have to worry about getting pregnant when switching. You should still be protected if you switch properly.
Post # 5
I used to take pills but I was terrible at remembering to take them, which defeats the purpose since missing pills makes it ineffective. While on the pill we still used condoms anyways.
After I realized I was not responsible to even take birth control pills (proof that I was is no way ready to be pregnant) I decided to do something a little more effecive and something I wouldnt have to think about. I had the Mirena IUD put in. No pills, no shots not anything just immediate birth control, more effective than the pill or condoms. We still used condoms anyways. I had the Mirena IUD in for 3 1/2 years before having it removed.
Post # 6
Just the Nuvaring has been working great for me for the last 3 years. We used to use both both but its not necessary, more expensive and not as fun.
Post # 7
@KearlSC: If you take your pill at the same time every day, your chances of getting pregnant are slim to none. We have never used condoms, I mess up my pills all the time, and we’ve never had a scare. I wouldn’t double up. We both find condoms annoying and they decrease sensation.
Also, another poster mentioned Gardasil. I would do research before doing something like this. I just read an article by one of the doctors who created the shot stating that it was dangerous.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Depending on the method of birth control (assuming you go with a hormonal option i.e. pill, patch, ring, or shot) they are between 97-99% effective. Condoms are about 98% effective. All with the disclaimer that they are used properly.
So, if you used both methods, your chances of getting pregnant go from 1-3 in 100 to 1 in 10,000.
The most important thing is using these methods AS INTENDED, which means for example, taking the pill at the same time every day, not taking antibiotics, etc.
ETA: Just a note to keep in mind as well, with NO birth control/barrier at all you have about a 20% chance of getting pregnant, depending on where in your cycle you are. But anecdotally, I have known 5 different women who have gotten pregnant while using hormonal birth control only. 2 were on Manera implants, one was on the shot, and 2 were on the pill. Personally I use Nuvaring and condoms every time.
Post # 10
I’ve been using BC pills only for 14 years with no issues. It’s very important to take them around the same time every day. Most are effective within a week of starting the pack.
If your FI is also a virgin I DEFINITELY would not rely on the withdrawal method. If you’re worried about it use a condom too.
Post # 11
NFP. Classes may be offered in your area (you can just google NFP classes). It’s a Bit of a time crunch to begin charting for an April wedding, but I personally would definitely recommend NFP over BC.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2014 - The Heathman Lodge (Vancouver)
OMG. I haven’t taken mine in over a month! I’ve been sick, had an ovarian cyst, and now a root canal. Guess I should probably pick that up…
Post # 14
I LOVE my Paragard IUD. It’s copper, so no hormones. You can leave it in for up to 10 years. I don’t even think about birth control anymore with my fiance.
Post # 15
My FI and I just got sexuqlly active (we have been virgins and waiting.. But decided not to wait till we are married anymore).
I am using the pill and my FI is using condoms.. Trying to be as safe as possible in order not to get pregnant
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2010 - Christmas Tree Farm
I and I have been using BCP with no other protection for almost four years (we waited until we were married, too) with no issues. The amount of BC you use just depends on your comfort level. Of course, using condoms and BCP is going to be more effective than using one or the other, but it felt unnecessary to us.