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    Pomapoo    May 6, 2011   Maryland

    Hey everybody,

    I'm going to the gyno today to get on BC so we can be extra-protected for the wedding/honeymoon (not trying to have a baby for at least a few years).  I was on it before for a few years and I went off it because I'd get breakthrough spotting, missed periods (which would lead to me freaking out thinking I was pregnant), decreased libido, weight gain, and mood swings.  FI is nervous about me going back on BC since I'm working hard to lose weight for the wedding and obviously, he's not a fan of the decreased libido.

    So I'm just wondering, do you guys have any advice for me?  Pills you recommend that didn't make you fat and kill your sex drive?  Or pills to stay away from?

    Any and all advice would be welcome.  The wedding is 2 months away and I'd really like this to work out.  Thank you!!

     
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    LGenz    May 21, 2011   New Jersey, Wedding in Clearwater, FL

    Everyone reacts differently to bc pills (Yaz was a nightmare for me). Honestly I wouldn't go on the pill this close to the wedding, I wouldn't want to chance the weight gain/mood swings/acne.

     
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    KH    October 22, 2011   Chicago

    Each person is different, what killed your libido may drive mine up. I completely gave up on hormones and went with the Paraguard (hormone free IUD), but the side effects are pretty awful (very oainful and heavy periods). It also doesn't help that without the hormones, I'm not as regular as I thought (due to work, family and wedding stress this month I was 3 weeks late, I was taking pregnancy tests daily!)

    If you really don't want to deal with any side effects, consider using a barrier method (condom, diaphragm, sponge) and spermicide.

    On a side note, I've been reading Macolm Gladwell and am strongly considering going back on hormones (after the wedding) to do the 4 periods a year thing.

     

     
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    TamiN    June 1, 2001   Sonoma, CA

    Yaz was a nightmare for me too... I really liked Seasonique but it was just too expensive (even with insurance).  I really like Ortho-Tri lo!

     
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    Pomapoo    May 6, 2011   Maryland

    @LGenz:  I've been wondering that too, but I really don't want to have to worry about condoms on the honeymoon, and I figured I can try it for a month and if I'm miserable/bloated then I can just stop and I'll have a month to get myself back together.

    @KH: I LOVE Malcolm Gladwell!  But if you are considering taking Seasonique/Seasonal (4 periods/year BC) you might be disappointed.  I know for me and for a lot of my friends, we got spotting really bad.  It was like having my period every day :(

     
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    I had similar experiences with Seasonique, and decided to stop hormonal birth control altogether due to various side effects, including melasma. 

    KH: I'm so sorry the Paragard is not working well for you!  I went with the Paragard IUD, but have had an entirely different experience.  While insertion was very painful (apparently it's more painful for women who have never had children), I've experienced almost no side effects.  I had more cramping with my period for the first couple months, but it's now five months since I had the Paragard inserted and my periods are pretty much what they were before I ever used hormonal birth control.  Same levels of cramping and bleeding.  The cramping and bleeding is worse than while I was on hormonal birth control (it seemed to reduce, but not by much, and I'm just glad not to have to worry about spotting, the worsening melasma, or the weight gain any more.  

     
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    almostmrsc    October 29, 2011   Western Mass

    I've been on some form of hormonal bc for the 6 years or so. I've been on the patch and on a pill (fem con fe ... it's chewable) and other than some spotting here and there, I've never had any issues or side effects really.

    You could try one of the low-dose pills and see what happens. I would definitely start as soon as possible so that you can get used to it before the wedding.

     
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    brideatbeach    June 4, 2011  

    I started blood clotting from Yaz and have been hesitant to try birth control ever since. I know there are pills out there that are safer than Yaz, but that experience really scared me.

     
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    bananejaune    November 11, 2011   Calgary, AB

    I did Paragard for 2 years... the pain I experienced having it inserted was incomparable (I've never had children), but was worth it in the long run. Paragard didn't work out for me as I ended up getting a recurring infection that didn't subside until it was removed. However, I think that was just a fluke. I would seriously recommend it to anyone. Yeah, I would bleed a lot more and cramps were a LOT more painful, but what is 6 days of shitiness per month compared to the round the clock side effects of hormonal birth control?

    Since having it taken out, I follow 'the Justisse method' of birth control which is counting and basal body temperature. 2 years of it going strong with no pregnancy and no side effects! However, if you're two months out from your wedding you'd probably want to get on that right away if you're considering it because you need a good 2-3 months of measuring your cycle before you can rely on it as birth control.

     

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