- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
I know there are probably more than a few posts out here about birth control.. But I wanted some advice specific to my situation.
I am getting married a week from tomorrow. My fiance and I are both virgins.
Because of indecisiveness about birth control, I didn’t have my appointment until yesterday.
I chose the patch because I tend to have a weak stomach.
But after doing much research today, I found that there are much higher instances of stroke/blood clot, etc with the patch than the pill. This being because there is up to 60% more estrogen in the patch (if someone else has heard differently, please let me know.) So I called and they’re changing my perscription.
My Fiance and I both hate the idea of using hormonal birth control. I do not want to get a copper IUD yet, because I’d rather have the slight pain and uncomfortableness of first time sex rather than some metal duck bills and cold hands opening me up for the first time!! at least the first is somewhat enjoyable. (ha..)
Anyway, even with the risks of the pill, I’m still actually quite frightened. We have actually discussed just condoms, with spermicide, and pulling out (because my prime fertile days will be the 6th through the 12th!!)
Is pulling out necessary if we have condoms and spermicide? Pulling out because we’ve never had sex before, so if we aren’t experienced in using condoms, usage will probably be imperfect the first few times. (I know its not rocket science, but hey…)
I just know, I am a lot like my mom in reacting to medicines, and she felt like she was dying when she was on the pill. She had every single bad reaction except blood clotting/stroke, etc. AND she is extremely fertile. (but managed to do the rhythm method perfectly for 26 years with only 1 mishap!!)
So, with ALLLL of that wonderfully long statement being said, should I just suck it up and take the pill? (I know we will have to use protection the first few days because I will be doing the quickstart method, starting this sunday.)
Or, if I don’t take it, is pulling out necessary? Will it pretty much ruin our fun and cause needless stress on the wedding night?
I’m trying to weigh all the options, because the side effects of the meds could “ruin” our fun, but so could the fear of getting pregnant.
Also, anyone ever used the Lady Comp on here? we might get one…