@kayrie95: never heard of it to be honest! I don't plan on it either. Somethings are private :-)
Eww.... I wouldn't want a camera up in my lady parts during a good day! Why would I want to capture that trama on tape torevisit???
I mean... when exactly do you plan on ever watching it again?!?! No one wants to see lady bits pushing out a baby on a tv screen after it happens! I want no photographic evidence of the state I was in between the onset of labor and when I get to shower afterwards. If someone wants that power to them but who do they expect to watch it? The kid??
My mom has/had one for me and my brother. It's not like the graphic giving birth TV shows. It's mostly immediately after the birth, so things like first bath and meeting family members.
@VAwife: I'm up for this kind of video, I think that would really capture the special moments, though I wouldn't consider it a birth film.
I do not want one of the baby actually coming out. I don't know a single person who has actually video taped it and I know lots of people with kids.
I had a friend who videotaped the whole birth. I'm talking the dad with video camera in one hand, her leg in the other. And yes they watched it again later....why you would want to, I have no idea. Then again this same girl didn't know that sometimes you poop during the pushing, and was mortified when it happened - I wonder if they got that on film?! lol
I have a son who is almost 5 years old. I am telling you ladies, you do NOT want a during labor video. You are NOT at your best. Now I do have a friend who had a special birth photographer present. Photographs are much more forgiving than a video. For me though, I did not want to be photographed or video taped. Now that it has been 5 years, I wish I had more pictures of those very first special moments.... glad I don't have a video though. haha
I had pictures of my children being born, but no film. I did see my best friend's birth fiim. It was really different to be on that end of it...literally. I think you have to be real secure with urself to want that forever on film.
@Westwood: Then again this same girl didn't know that sometimes you poop during the pushing, and was mortified when it happened - I wonder if they got that on film?! lol
rofl. Amazing.
I didn't. I couldn't imagine having someone else in the room at that time... and with a video camera!? ahhh. I couldn't stand to watch it again either, I'd probably have sympathy pain for my past self... and scare myself away from more babies EVER.
I did however do a photo story for my baby sister, her boyfriend and their daughter! One of the top 5 moments of my life! I was so happy to be allowed in the room with them for the entire experience.
God no. Why in the world would I want to do that? Take a few pictures and maybe a short iPhone video of the kid (NOT ME) soon after birth but that’s it. Why would anyone want to be captured on film during and after shooting a baby out of her vajayjay? No thank you.
The majority of hospitals won't allow pictures/video taken during the actual birth. You can take pictures/video while laboring and after the baby comes out, but not during pushing & delivery.
I wouldn't want that anyway. I don't want pictures of my hoo-ha with a baby sticking halfway out! We got great pictures (and some pretty terrible ones too, I looked like crap!) after the baby was born of him getting weighed, me holding him, etc.
I've never heard of it (well, except for those ones you find on youtube). I would never do it. What crazy masochist would want to watch tihs so-called film??? Definitely not me!
@kayrie95: The idea of a birth film horrifies me. I just don't get it.
I'm one of those chicks who is absolutely terrified of giving birth. I don't want someone shoving a camera in my private bits when I am going to possibly be in the most pain I've ever been in my whole life.
I just find the idea completely low class and frankly disgusting.
I wouldn't mind taking a photo of the baby (or me and baby) in the delivery room once everything is cleaned up and I'm hopefully not screaming in pain.. but that's as far as it goes.
I am a private person and I only want the necessary people there. My future husband better not be filming me, I don't even want him looking down there!! Just him and the medical people, thank you very much.
And when would you watch this?! Like make some popcorn and watch something this gory and re-live the pain? Lol uhhh no thanks.
My guess is people think this will be a good idea, like very glowy and magical, them being all calm and serene and capturing this blessed miracle.
In reality if it is anything like my birth, the mom is sweaty, her face is purple, she's pissed off at how long she's been in labor, and she's screaming "HOLY SHIT THIS HURTS" over and over.
Hahaha, can you imagine showing a birthing video to a child to explain to them where babies come from? Might be a very effective form of birth control for them.
Never known someone who had one, and it's not for me personally.
No way! Horrific! Who would watch it and why would I let them?! Oversharing to the extreme.
Thank you for your responses, ladies! I totally understand taking pictures after the baby's born. Of course I'm going to do that.
But he was talking about watching a video tape of the birth of his nephew and said he got grossed out by the afterbirth coming out, so it had to have been the whole thing on tape. And it's beyond me why anyone would want to tape that. 1. I'm going to be in a lot of pain, so the last thing I'm gonna want is a video camera right there. 2. Why would I want anyone to tape a video of my vajayjay anyway? 3. Who would want to see that? Giving birth isn't pretty...
I understand what @VAwife was talking about with taping the mother holding the baby and the first bath and whatnot. That's totally cool and I don't think I'd mind that. But not while I'm giving birth. I will break the camera and probably the face of whoever thought it was a good idea. Luckily, FI agrees that we don't want to do that when I have kids.
And for those of you who voted "Pandas!!" here you go. Because pandas are awesome.
My aunt and uncle once decided that the family Thanksgiving gathering was the PERFECT opportunity to showcase the video of my then-baby cousin being delivered via c-section. I was 13 and it still haunts me.
I've never heard of anyone video taping the birth. I would be open to a birth photographer though (but no pictures "down there" either!).
I saw one during my Bradley Childbirth class that will stay in my memory forever. It looked older, like maybe during the 1980's, and was filmed in some remote country. The woman is giving birth in the ocean, in a tidal pool (which is GROSS because tidal pools are teaming with critters and germs!), at the beach. So it starts off crazy and only gets crazier. At one point they show some musicians playing and dancing on a beach...then they zoom out and you realize it's her family and friends and they are at her birth. Then after the baby is born they cut to some generic footage of dolphins swimming, which at the time I took to be random dolphins included for "mood"...until they zoom out and you realize they are also present at the birth, and now they are swimming WITH THE BABY. OMG.
It made my homebirth look positively industrial.
@FreeRangeMom: The only thing I can think of is where all the sand would be... Also, musicians? Strange. But I guess to each their own.
Granted, I'm not surrounded by the "having babies world," but I have never heard of this... That would totally weird me out. I don't think I, nor anyone else, would ever want to watch such a video.
@misspeanut: jaw drops...
Under no circumstances would I want my lady parts videoed (though I had C-sections in the end anyway). A few photos of my face and of baby the time of birth can be nice, but even then I'm not so sure. DH took a photo of me holding the baby not long after one of my births, and it's not at all flattering: I look exhausted and out of it. I far prefer the photos of me holding baby a day or two later when I'm rested and cleaned up.
Oh, and what's the point? Photos and videos of our babies, as they grow up, are WAY cuter than a photo or video of me in labor.
I wouldn't have any birth film made, but on the flip side, I'm not having a film of my wedding made, either. It's not something I would watch again.
I was there. I know what the birth was like!
Plus, I don't need someone zooming in on my swollen, bleeding nether bits. I wouldn't watch somebody else's outside of health class, either.
Thank you for the pandas. Most adorable creatures ever.
I know some guy who videotaped his wife's labour. When I heard that story, I was like WTF? Why would anyone want to do that?! I also thought he might be a little vain.
I can see having a film for right after the baby is born. I probably wouldn't do it, but I can see like baby's first moments, first time in mom & dad's arms, new grandparents, ectectect, but the birth itself? WHY!?
My BFF's mom had her birth videotaped. My BFF had to watch it as a teenager as part of a "no sex before marriage talk". hahaa It would definitely scare me!
@BuffaloDots: Now THAT is a good reason to have a birth film! I would probably never have kids if I saw that.
I've heard of it, but I don't know anyone who has done one (never asked anyone though), and I definitely don't plan on having one haha.
I'm a pretty natural, hippie, love-your-body lady, but oooh gosh no! Yikes.
The "here's the new baby" vidoes I can understand (after my boobs and bits are covered and we're both not slimy/sweaty/crying anymore), but the "vagina in all it's gory glory" is a video I shall never produce or star in. Oof. I doubt I'd ever want to watch it again, and I know I'd never show that to my kiddos - I bet they don't want to see their mom's vagina as much as I don't want to show it to them. Eek.
I don't really even want my man down there. haha I feel like he will never see my nether regions the same way ;)
I had a co-worker who did it and regreted it. She actually accidently showed it to her dad once too! Personally I don't even want my husband to see it happening and he agrees. I've heard too many horror stories of husbands getting creeped out by watching the birth. Others I know who have had children, their doctors have recomended that they're spouse dosn't watch and stays by the woman for this reason.
Even c-section videos gross me out. When are you going to watch that again. I found a new favorite blog stfuparentsblog.c and it shows people who have posted things like that online to their fb's. Never, ever do I want the horrid memory of that being done to my body!
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Okay, my FI and I are having a discussion on birth films. I found the idea of birth tapes kind of odd (mostly because I'm a very private person and wouldn't share that with anybody) and don't really understand why people have them made. He says that over half of America has birth films made and they're not unusual at all.
So to end the argument, have you/will you have a birth film made? Do you know people who have? How common is it?