(Closed) birthcontrol pills … what do you think?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m not against birth control.  It is a safe and effective way to prevent pregnancy.  If you are concerned about your health, I’d talk to your doctor.  If you are concerned due to religious reasons, then it doesn’t matter what we think.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@nil:  Hi!  I guess my first question is really what business is it of your family’s if you are using birth control or not?  How would they even know?  I really think this is a decision that you and your future hubby need to agree on.  Just tell your family you aren’t taking any – surely they wont search you for the patch.  If so, get NuvaRing – i BET they won’t find that one.  lol. 

I haven’t been on birth control in some time now, but we aren’t trying.  Mainly for me, bc causes a lot of weight gain, low sex drive, and also highly irregular periods, regardless of which kind I’ve tried.  So we made the decision to just stay off of it.

Good luck with whatever you decide – don’t let your family push you around. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree … if it’s religious reasoning then that’s something you and FI have to come to terms with.  If that’s not the case, then why not?  as long as your dr. feels this will be fine.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Like others have stated… This is a decision that needs to be made between you and your FI only… As far as your parents, FILs, grandparents, siblings, whatever… it’s none of their business.

As far as health is concerned, I have been on the BC pill for 5 years and have never had a problem, but it is best to talk to your dr. about your options and what is right for you.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Your body, your decision, ultimately. You already know your FI is against it, so you guys need to have a chat. Maybe there are some misconceptions on his part regarding health/birth control that could be cleared up.

Post # 10
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2821 posts
Sugar bee

Is your FI basing his decision on what his family thinks or is he educated about methods of birth control? 

I’m not against hormonal birth control but decided for many reasons it’s not for me.  And there are viable non-hormonal methods out there.  Maybe you and your FI need to have a research evening and then sit and talk about the options.

Post # 11
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t like hormonal birth control personally, I think there are a lot of things happening (uterine cysts and the like) that are happening now because of birth control taken over a long period of time. (I don’t have anything scientific to back that up, there are just a lot of women I know who are having problems, including my sister, and thats what her docter concluded to). BUT I agree it’s none of your families business, and I don’t even know how they would know?

(Just stay away from the Depa shot!!!)

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Birth control is a really key issue in a marriage.  If you don’t use birth control, there is a much greater chance that you will end up pregnant.  It concerns me that you feel like you don’t have any control over your fertility.  I think you should just talk to your fiance about how you feel.

Post # 13
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

One more thing, you could look into FAM, it’s actually very efficient if you do it right 🙂

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

They are a health concern for some people, but most take them with no problems at all.  I think you and FI need to have an in depth discussion of your options.

basically:  BC, condoms, NFP, no sex, or if a baby happens s/he happens!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

@nil: Look into FAM! Go to TCOYC.com, they even have a book you can read. It may make you squeemish at first, but there is a TON of good info that really every woman should know even if she does use hormonal BC. Basically you have to take your temp at the same time every morning, and your body lets you know if you’re ovulating.

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