Post # 1
DH and I went to our first class along with the tour this past weekend. The hospital I am delivering at has 2 room options. Option One: you deliver and stay in the same room and you are able to have the baby with you the whole time. Nurses assist, but the baby will not go to the nursery. Option Two: you deliver the baby and move to another room and baby has option to go to the nursery. There is a huge difference in size and visual comfort in these rooms. The birthing suite is nice, new and 3 times the size of the normal room. However, do I want the baby to go to the nursery?
I am torn because in my mind, I think it is only 2 days and I want my baby with me the whole time. I have asked friends and they say nursery all the way. So I am reaching out for opinions.
(This is all assuming I have a normal, natural birth and don’t have to have a c-section. You don’t have a choice in that case. )
Post # 3
We don’t have options, we have to labor and deliver in one room and then move to another room, where we also have the option of having the baby in the nursery.
I’m planning on keeping her with me, but I do like having that option in case I’m exhausted and want a few hours of sleep. After all, in a couple of days I won’t be able to just ask a nurse to take her for a couple of hours, so I feel like I might want to take advantage of it. I think that would be more important to me than a big room.
Post # 4
My daughter did not go to the nursery. I wasn’t given the option. Either way, I am so happy she didnt.
I really enjoyed having quiet time with her in the room while no one was there.
I shared the room with another lady who was having a really hard time emotionally. But it honestly didn’t bother me. I actually felt really sad for her.
Either way, I had my baby with me the entire time (I was there for 6 days) and I wouldn’t have changed that for the world.
I think if you want your baby with you, stick with your gut 🙂
Post # 5
@artbee: gosh today I am just riding all your posts lol sorry
Post # 5
My hospital didn’t have a choice of rooms. You deliver on the 5th floor and post-partum you go up to the 6th floor. Granted, some rooms were larger than others but it was a first come, first served for those rooms. Baby was allowed to stay with me for the first hour in delivery but then went to the nursery after that for about an hour for the apgar tests and the rest of it when I was moved up to my post-partum room. After that, we were given the option of having baby room-in with us or be in the nursery at any time. I chose to have baby room-in with us and never sent him to the nursery. The only time he was away from me was for his circumcision. I chose to breastfeed and in order to try to get that off on the right foot I wanted baby with me the whole time. My husband did stay the first night with me to help but he went home the next morning to shower, change, get some decent sleep, feed the dogs, etc when my son was at 24 hours old and I was left alone for about 5 hours. It was hard but I didn’t feel the nursery was needed. My personal opinion was I was about to have to do this at home by myself, I might as well try to handle it in the hospital too. I can understand some people needing some time to themselves but for me it wasn’t something I wanted or needed.
Post # 6
We haven’t been on our tour yet, but from looking online, we don’t have a choice either. I want the baby in the room with me. I just don’t want him/her to be away from me.
Post # 7
We didn’t have a choice either; babies room-in with the mom unless there are medical issues where the baby needs to be monitored. They also do all the baby care in the room, except for the hearing test, which takes place in the nursery.
I think the option of rooming in versus nursery is so personal based on your own personality and your birth experience. I had an easy delivery and recovery (I wanted to leave the hospital within 12 hours of birth, but they were so busy, they couldn’t get all her checks done, so we had to wait an extra day to check out. boo!), and there was no way I was giving my baby up to the nursery for even a minute longer than I had to. I held her for hours after birth because I didn’t want to put her down! 🙂
Also, the nurses are in and out of your room all night, whether you have the baby in your room or not. You will get very little sleep in the hospital, regardless of where the baby is.
Post # 8
DH was with me the whole time (never went home or anything), so even if I felt like I needed someone to watch the baby while I showered, or to help comfort the baby if he was crying, I had DH there. I never felt the need to send him to the nursery. If I’d be alone overnight or for long periods, then I think I might have considered it.
Also, if you’re planning on breast-feeding, I think it’s a little easier just have them room-in since they need to eat every 2 hours.
Post # 9
We didn’t have an option, the nursery was open to all babies. Both nights she went to the nursery for a few hours while I fell asleep. They tended to have doctors visits and baby tests around 11 pm, and I’d wait around for her and by the time she was finished it was close to midnight so then I’d feed her and then try to go to sleep but I couldn’t, I was so hyper after having her even though I’d barely slept in days. So then I’d end up bringing her to the nursery and they’d keep her until it was time for her to nurse again and then she’d stay with me the rest of the night and day. The nursery was pretty well used at the hospital I was at. It was nice to have though not necessary.
Post # 10
I had a birthing suite and it was the best choice for me. I was able to labor, deliver and recover in the same room. Plus my baby was able to stay with me the whole time, which I felt was important for mother-baby bonding.
Post # 11
With my son everything happened in the same room, I remember having to go into a different room (not an actual hospital room with a bed) to use the tub and that was only for as long as I could be in the tub then it was straight back to the room.
He cried inconsolably (later to find out that it was colic and lasted between 6-9 months) so the nurses offered to take him with them to the nurses station (no nursery) so we could get some sleep. That worked best for us, I’ve never seen a baby swaddled so well, it put him right to sleep and they brought him back in 🙂
We haven’t had a tour yet, I should look that up online!