- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Background – FI and I are having a very small wedding and basically have no more money that we can throw at it other then what we have budgeted.
FI and I decided early on in our engagement that we wanted a small wedding and wanted to keep costs down as we were saving for a house (which we have now bought so not an option to dip into house savings). When choosing our guest list, we went through and only chose close friends and close family. The only people who got ‘plus 1’s” is the best man (who other then us doesnt really know anyone at our wedding and we are having a sweetheart table so need him to sit with someone) and a friend of mine who I worked with 5 years ago (also doesnt know anyone and is also singing at our ceremony for no charge)
Guests partners were invited as well as all of guests are either married, engaged or living together – except FI’s little sister.
She is 17 and has been with her boyfriend for about a year, we have never been introduced to him, even when we go over to FFIL and FMILs house and he is there he will work straight past us and go into her room. FI was in charge of his sides invitations and decided that FSIL wouldnt get a plus 1. She messgaed him last night –
FSIL – Do I get a plus one or no?
FI – As we’ve never actually met Jesse at this point its a no. What did you think of invites
FSIL – If Jesse doesnt get an invitation im not going
FI is pissed to say the least, the only time any of his family mention our wedding its to tell us its a waste of money or that we are rude for not waiting for FI’s oldest sister to get married as she was engaged first (she has been engaged for 8.5 years and still has no plans on tying the knot, which is fine but I aint waiting for her) and out of the 4 siblings FI 2 have already said they arent coming (one because she has problems with FMIL and doesnt want to see her so wont go to family events and the other because his got a baby on the way and cant afford it)
So do we give in and find the extra $140 + for the boyfriend?
Only invite him if someone RSVPs no so we arnt breaking budget?
Hold our guns?
FI doesnt want to change his descion as there are a LOT of people (cousins, friends, aunts etc) that didnt get invited and he sees it as if we are breaking budget for anyone itd be for someone who we know what their voice sounds like. Same with when people RSVP.
ETA – FFIL and FMIL have barely spoken to him a handful of times, he seems to just ignore everyone. FSIL and boyfriend dont live together either.