- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
For those of you unfamiliar with the custom, a Stag & Doe is a big carnival-like party thrown in order to raise the bride & groom some money to help them with their wedding/new life together. I have gone to many over the years and always had a great time. The family & bridal party help organise it and sell tickets ($5-$15 each). You play games, enter draws for prizes and cash, eat lots of food, have a few drinks, catch up with people you may not have seen in a while and wish the happy couple the best. I know some of you think it’s tacky or trashy, but I just see it as a good time to get people together.
Now. My fiance is from the UK, we live and will be getting married in Australia, so a lot of people whome I would have normally loved to have there won’t be able to make it. Not to mention the fact that we’ve not had an engagament party or bridal shower – again, distance.
We’re heaading back to Canada for my MOH’s wedding – which I’m a bridesmaid for – and my family has decided to throw us a Stag & Doe. This way everyone can come out and have a great night, maybe win something, and we might head home with a few extra dollars in our pockets. Win/Win.
My sister has taken on most of the responsibilities that my Maid/Matron of Honor would normally do. Ticket printing, getting most of the prizes, basicly organising the whole thing. This way, Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t have to get too stressed as her wedding is the week after. I think that’s fair. All my sister has asked of her, is to help sell tickets, try to drum up a prize or two and come help out on the night – she’s going to be there anyway. What has my sister had in response?? “I can’t ask anyone for prizes because I just had my Stag & Doe, and no one will want to give me anything.” “I don’t think anyone will buy tickets from me because they’re more expensive than mine were.” Really?? She’s not even tried. I get that she might want to wait a bit before asking around for prizes. She has nearly two months for my Stag & Doe. I don’t care how much she charged for tickets. In fact, I don’t care how much she charges for ours. Go ahead and charge whatever you like!
I’m just saying that I’ve told her that as my Maid/Matron of Honor coming to Australia she doesn’t have to worry about things like the bachelorette party and most Maid/Matron of Honor pre-wedding duties. That I just want her there with me and if there’s anything to get done back in Canada that her help would be appreciated.
And to those of you who might get on a bit of a soap box about Stag & Doe’s; I don’t care if I walk away with $50 when all is said and done. I just want to be able to have a great night with everyone back home… And maybe get a pie in the face.