(Closed) Bitter sweet…..

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@stardustintheeyes: Since they are already married, I don’t see the big deal in picking a different date since this is just a formality and not their marriage date.  I know people who have done that, but in your situation, I think it’s a little insensitive of her. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It’s totally okay to feel the way you do. It’s normal to be sad about not having the wedding you originally wanted. But I don’t think you should say anything about this to your cousin or anyone else because it’s irrational to forbid her from having her wedding on that date when you’re not using it. Focus your emotions on the real cause, sadness over canceling your own wedding, instead of directing them on your cousin’s wedding.

Post # 8
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3302 posts
Sugar bee

I completely understand how you feel- here is a hug for you *hugs* I hope you are able to pick another date soon and dive deep in planning so you can be settled with her date.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

You are only human, give yourself a break! ๐Ÿ™‚ You will mourn your “wedding date” regardless of where you are, you might as well be surrounded by family on that day. Your mind will wonder and that’s OK. At least it can be masked by someone else’s happiness. Let yourself feel how you feel just keep it between the two of you and the beehive ๐Ÿ™‚

Hugs!

Post # 11
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184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

 @meraklu:  Agreed.

OP, she’s not stealing your wedding date because she’s not actually having a wedding. It’s just a party celebrating a “quickie ceremony” that has occurred in the past.  Not that there’s anything wrong with that…they can certainly call it a “wedding” if they’d like…it just is what it is. 

I wouldn’t take it to heart.  At 20-years-old, she’s still just a kid, so it probably didn’t even occur to her that she was making her request in such an uncouth manner.

Best of luck with your own planning!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

At least she asked!! I’m sorry – it must be really hard to have the ‘final nail in the coffin’ feeling about your wedding date, even though it’s no one’s fault that this has happened, you have every right to be annoyed, angry, frustrated, upset…everything/

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