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posted 2 years ago in Waiting

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semanthia

I just found out my cousin is engaged. I am really happy for her she is in her mid 30's and has had some rough relationships but it is bittersweet. They've been dating for about a year and here I am just hit 5 years. I can't say I am jealous but somewhat sad :(

Tonight we are celebrating our fifth year (because its the only night we've had together) I thought maybe he'd ask tonight because I thought he bought a ring. I don't know what he bought but I think its not a ring. I feel sick to my stomach and kind of like crying but won't.

2 years ago

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Future Mrs. Martin August 21, 2010 London Ontario Canada

Awe I am sorry you feel this way!

Waiting is hard and green emotions come out even when you don't want them too! I've been there my FI proposed at the 5.5 year mark and many friends in shorter relationships got engaged and married before me.

Just remember that your cousin is a lot older and so has been waiting to get married a lot longer than you and the reason that is taking you and your SO longer is probably because of the stage of life you are in! Try and be happy for her and your time will come soon and trust me it is WELL worth the wait!

I will keep my fingers crossed for tonight!

2 years ago

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LatteLove June 19, 2009 Chicago/San Diego

Waiting is the hardest thing. We have all been there!

I will say do your best to be really excited for your cousin, especially because you wouldn't want your friends to be bitter when you actually get engaged!

Your time will come (even when it doesn't seem like it's any time soon!) and you'll forget how hard it was to wait all this time!

I'm sorry you're feeling sad/disappointed. (But Mrs. Meatball got proposed to on her 5th anniversary...maybe it'll be the same for you!) I hope you have a happy anniversary!

2 years ago

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beckyh

I understand how you feel. I have been going out with my boyfriend for six years now. I am going crazy!! He got mad at me the other day becuase I keep talking about it. So I am going to try to be good and just be quiet. I have had 5 friends get engaged in the last 2 months. THATS RIGHT! I was getting so mad. I know he hasnt done anything wrong but its like why can't it be me. Our time will come, we just have to wait.

2 years ago

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tea norcal

::hugs::

the emotional roller coaster you go through while you're waiting is exhausting! i know it was hard for me to be happy for my friends who were getting engaged and married before me but i know that our time will come and i would want them to be happy for me so i do what i can to be happy for them. it's hard but it helps me to get over the hump. good luck and happy anniversary!

2 years ago

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cinemaparadiso July 16, 2015

Oh god, it is so hard finding out others are engaged! I agree with pps, act as happy as you can for your cousin's sake! And don't worry about your ring... i'm sure you'll be there soon enough! happy anniversary, our 5 years is in about a month--doesn't it feel like time flies?

2 years ago

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semanthia

I'm happy for her and excited. It just gets me thinking about our situation. Maybe im just being impatient.

2 years ago

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Jaxx317 July 17, 2011 Brooklyn, NY/wedding in the Hudson Valley

semanthia - we're all there! this disappointment sucks, and every time you hear about someone else, your heart kind of sinks....and you have *yet* another reminder that someone else is getting married and you are not....i'm there with you!

i am dreading our 4 year anniversary in a couple weeks because it means another year went by w/out a ring! also, it will probably be another anniversary that he never does anything special for.

try to hang in there! corgitales and waitingprincess have given me new hope!

2 years ago