Post # 1
Mr. Grape and I think it would be really cool to have an all black and white reception next year, from the decor to the food (to some extent), and he also liked the idea of asking guests to wear only black and/or white as well. I have two questions:
1) How would we word this? I’m thinking something along the lines of a little note at the bottom of the invitation like, “Mr. and Mrs. Grape look forward to celebrating with you and request that you dress in your favorite black and/or white outfit,” but is that too heavy-handed? We want to get our wishes/idea across without seeming over-the-top. I know some people will say you should never dictate what guests wear, but it’s more of a suggestion, I think…
2) Is it tacky/in poor taste/whatever if Mr. Grape and I are the only two (according to the plan, at least–I know some people may not adhere to the plan, which is no big deal) not in all black and white? I’m planning on wearing my green dress again, and Mr. Grape will wear his green tie with a black suit. Does that scream “Look at me” too much? Honesty is appreciated, as we don’t want to rub our guests the wrong way! Chances are that they’ll think it’s cool, but you never know…would you be bothered if the B&G were the only two not adhering to the color scheme?
If we do black and white, it’ll sure cut down the decor-related headaches!
ETA: In before “guests are not props” comments surface. It’s just a thought. 🙂 We realize they’re not props, but thought it would be fun if those who wanted to participate would get in on the color scheme as well.
Post # 3
Oh, I love the idea of an opposite wedding reception. I would put in a seperate card explaining the idea, I would think it would be fun.
Post # 4
I love love love this idea!
We want to request Black Tie Dress at our “Almost Christmas Wedding”
Its not often you get to see everyone dolled up for an occasion and I love the POP of YOUR COLOR! Because in the end, thats what its about YOU TWO and everyone else in the B&W Background!!
LOVE IT MRS. GRAPE!
Post # 5
If you have to edit in a “guests are not props” comment, don’t you think you’ve probably answered your own question?
Post # 6
@Amaryllis: No, because they’re NOT props. I just thought it would be kind of fun to get everyone in on the theme. Totally optional–it’s not like we’re going to enforce it or anything. It’s merely a suggestion.
Post # 7
Oh your reception just sounds better and better!
I think a card that says “The Bride and Groom request that you wear black and white to their party on November 22 (made up date).”
Normally the bride is the only person in white, so you stand out. How is you NOT being in white any different? Love the idea, really.
Post # 8
can i please come to your reception? i love this idea!!! i would think it was neat if i was a guest!
Post # 9
Join us for a
Black & White Affair
Celebrating the marriage of Mr. & Mrs. Grape
these tickets are kind of cool
Post # 10
Honestly, I have a hard time finding any dress I like to wear to weddings. If I had to adhere, which I would totally feel like I had to with the note in the invitation, I would be somewhat annoyed. But I’m a “rule” follower. On the other hand, I think most women own a black dress so it isn’t like you are asking them to wear an uncommon color like yellow. Its easy for a man to do a black suit as well.
If you decide to go with the idea, I think it is fine to wear your green dress.
Post # 11
@tksjewelry: Hey, that’s really cool–thanks for sharing!
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Post # 13
I think that’d be a fun idea! Black/white parties are common, and as another PP said, they’re common colors for guests to already have in their wardrobe.
You could include a playful black card with white writing explaining the black/white theme, and if you want to emphasize that you two get a color pop, the words Bride and Groom could be in colored ink.
Post # 14
I think it would be cool, but just be aware that a lot of people are afraid of wearing white to weddings… so you could end up looking a bit like a funeral…
Post # 15
I don’t think you should worry about you and your hubby standing out because after all, the reception is for you two!
Maybe if you ask in a fun way, like the ticket the PP attached or maybe in a rhyme.
I think some people will appreciate the ease of finding a LBD or other item of black clothing to wear.
Post # 16
Who doesnt have a LBD??? Easy!
Which bloke doesnt have a white shirt and black pants- easy!
Great idea! Dont need to worry about any fancy camera work for the pop of colour, it will already be there!