Black Tie Optional Wedding…feeling weird about wearing floor length dress!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

No not at all. I think it’s a gorgeous dress & if I was going to a black tie event I would go for a full length dress. X

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it’s totally fine for black tie optional! I’d go with simple shoes, hair down, and not fancy jewelry to downplay it a bit.  Our wedding was black tie optional and I’d say it was half long dresses and half short dresses.  Both styles fit in very well!

PS You look awesome in it!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

weatherbug:  Ugh. People need to stop trying to make these fake dress codes happen. Your dress is perfectly appropriate for the event you are describing. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

weatherbug:  personally if my guy was wearing a suit I would want to be in a cocktail dress not a gown. If you love it and can rock it confidentally though, go for it. Not an etiquette faux pas or anything!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

weatherbug: I think you should be fine. If you want to tone it down just in case, just have simple accessories

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

weatherbug:  no, rock that dress! its beautiful!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

merpitymerp:  Agree! “Black tie optional” = “we want you to dress fancy but don’t want to commit to the other expectations of a black tie event.” If you think about it, EVERY wedding is “black tie optional.” You can wear whatever you damn want to most weddings – whether it’s a cocktail dress or an evening gown. “Black tie optional” really doesn’t mean anything.

weatherbug:  Okay, rant over! To answer your question, it’s a beautiful dress and very appropriate!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

weatherbug:  The wedding is either black tie or it isn’t.  The word ‘optional’ is what’s making you confused.  If it were truly black tie then EVERY woman would be in a long gown, that’s what black tie is.

The dress is beautiful and not overly ornate so I think you’ll be able to fit in with a truly black tie event (if it were in fact that) or a less formal wedding where women wear cocktail dresses.

Great choice!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

weatherbug:  I say go for it, in our world today it’s tough to find an excuse for a long gown- you look great in it- rock it out! Also, I love the color- very Kate Middleton. 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

You look beautiful.  I say wear it with a pretty smile. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

merpitymerp:  applecat:  “Black tie optional” = “we want you to dress fancy but don’t want to commit to the other expectations of a black tie event”

Not true.  Many people (myself included) host black-tie events, but don’t want guests to feel like they have to rent a tux or buy a long gown to attend.  Our invitations were the traditional letterpress ivory in black font with calligraphy so guests understood the formality.  Then we clarified ‘black tie optional’ on our website.

 

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

weatherbug:  Wear it! I think it’s a more casual gown (not that it’s casual, but it’s not like full on beaded or crazy ornate) which means it will fit in with other floor length gowns or with  nice cocktail dresses. It’s a beautiful dress!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

CityBearBride:  so for the people that do follow the ‘black tie’ instructions, they end up feeling over dressed because other people aren’t dressed accordingly – what’s the point of black tie then?

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