Post # 1
Hello, bees!<br /><br />I’m a long time lurker/reader but a first time poster. 🙂
My FI is a groomsman in a black tie optional wedding at the end of this month, but I’m at a loss as to what to wear! The groomsmen will be wearing tuxes. The bride and groom have said that they expect a mix of cocktail and long gowns, so I don’t think that either is going to stick out.<br /><br />I would prefer to find something that is short/fancy cocktail because I know that I will get more wear out of a short piece, but the reception is also in the evening in a nice venue about 25 miles from NYC. Even though the couple says they expect a mix of short and long I want to look appropriate and blend in. There aren’t many events where I live where I would wear a long gown! I was thinking of something like this, dressed up with the right accessories and hair:
What do you all think? – Any other suggestions for cocktail dresses or should I definitely go with a longer gown? Any suggestions for affordable and rewearable long gowns? I’m in my early/mid twenties and everything either seems to be too young or too old for what I am looking for. Help!
Post # 2
How about something with some color? I’m loving all the spring colors now…
Have you thought about rent the runway?
Post # 3
i LOVE the first dress you posted.. ive seen it in other colors too (red, cobalt blue, purple) so i would pick that one!
Post # 4
I love the first dress you posted. I think the style is very classy and oh the possibilities for accessories !!
One shoulder dresses are also very nice. And I agree that a little more color would be nice too. Have you thought of that and decided on black ?
Post # 5
I would choose a style like the first one, but in a colour.
Post # 6
I like the first dress, its really classy and dressy, but totally rewearable. I think black is a better choice, you can always add colour with your accessories.
Post # 7
Thanks for the feedback, everyone! I’m definitely open to other colors. I think my eye was just drawn to these two because I see the wearability of a black dress.
Are there any stores anyone would suggest I check out for something similar? I really like the style of the first dress but would like to shop around a little more before I commit. 🙂
Post # 8
chutesandladders: davids bridal has the first dress you posted in navy blue, royal blue, plum and black http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Lace-Cap-Sleeve-Dress-with-Side-Ruffles-XS3393_Special-Occasions-Shop-By-Occasion-Cocktail-Party-Dresses as well as a variety of other dresses that are very simliar.. not sure where you live, but they have stores all over and their prices can be pretty reasonable if you find things on sale.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
I agree with PP that the first dress looks better- the second is too casual for black tie
Post # 10
chutesandladders: We’re having a black tie wedding and was going to say pick something floor length until you said its optional! – but even so, black tie ‘optional’ lends itself to being quite formal so if you’re set on one of those you’ve shown i’d definitely say the first with the lace cap sleeve, I think the second is a bit too cocktail.
Would you consider a nice maxi dress? Full length doesn’t have to be stuffy and you can get some stunning dressier maxi’s that you could totally wear again! Maybe its just me but I always prefer to be over dressed than under-dressed!
Post # 11
chutesandladders: I loved the first dress for my BMs (it comes long and short) until I saw it on. Nope! It’s kind of blah on. My sister had it on, she’s tall and slim and it did nothing for her. It was quickly nixed. Are you buying online? Or in-store so you can try it on?
What about rent the runway or similar? I’m biased because I do it for all big events. 🙂
Post # 12
for a black tie affair if you aren’t doing long, stay way from color, and if you do long in color make sure it’s a fabric like chiffon or satin as you don’t want it to look too casual (ie beach like maxi), darker colors are always more formal (think jewel tones) and try to stear away from patterns and prints. That being said the first dress out of these two is def more formal and could fit well into a black tie wedding, wear your hair up and polished to make if more formal with some fun statement earrings! And of course a nude or black pump! I think ur ok with the first dress but if you aren’t sold def check out rent the runway as previous posters have said, it’s a fun exuse to go all out glam so why not?!
Post # 13
Miss_E_xx: I’m definitely still open to looking at longer dresses as well. So far I just haven’t been able to find anything that’s hit the right note for me in a longer length I think. I’ve started scanning some BM dresses, so maybe I’ll find something there because I’d definitely rather be over than under dressed too!
bella_graystone: I’m close to a lot of department stores as well as a DB, but I’ve mostly been looking online so far. I’ve never used Rent the Runway – have you had good experiences with them? Some of the dresses are gorgeous!
I’m also thinking about this dress from Macy’s:
Post # 14
chutesandladders: I’ve used rentafrockrepeat (I’m in Canada). It’s the same idea. I *love* it. I highly recommend it and I have sent lots of friends to them as well who’ve been just as happy with their rentals.
IMO, I’d much rather pay $100 – $150 to rent an amazing dress than spend $100 on a so-so dress that I often don’t rewear because everyone’s already seen it. I actually looked to see if they had anything suitable for my wedding. 😛 But in the end I bought a proper wedding dress.
I’m lucky enough to live in the city it’s based out of; so I’ve been able to go in and try on a variety of dresses (which the girls then saved to my wish list, with the sizes I needed, for ease of renting later.) But they’ll ship 2 sizes of the same dress for the price of one, in case you’re off in your estimation or they fit a little different than you were expecting.
I may rent for the rehearsal dinner and possibly for my shower, unless I find something suitable for less than the rental (that’s my decision maker. Can I find something I like for less than/around the cost of the rental? (And that I can realistically wear again?) If yes, I’ll buy a dress. If no, I rent.)
Post # 15
chutesandladders: Have you thought about potentially renting a dress since you have a concern of not getting a lot of use out of it. This website has some amazing dresses that you can rent pretty reasonably.
fyi… I just put a price cap of $100 on this, but they have a variety of price ranges and beautiful gowns.