(Closed) Black to a Wedding

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Wearing Black to a Wedding
    It is perfectly acceptable for anyone to wear black to a wedding (bridesmaids, mothers, guests, etc) : (93 votes)
    78 %
    It is okay for bridesmaids to wear black to a wedding, but not mothers of bride or groom. : (8 votes)
    7 %
    It is okay for guests to wear black to a wedding, but not mothers of bride or groom or bridesmaids. : (9 votes)
    8 %
    It is okay for mothers to wear black to a wedding, but not bridesmaids or guests. : (0 votes)
    Nobody should wear black to a wedding. : (6 votes)
    5 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    531 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

    I wouldn’t think any of it really, cause for me black’s more a formal color rather than a mourning one, but I understand why some people might think otherwise.

    Post # 4
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    2000 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I don’t think its acceptable for a guest to wear black to a wedding.  You never really know if the bride is going to care about it or not, so why even go there. As a guest, I would just avoid the color to avoid possibly offending anyone.  As for the mothers of the bride & groom, I think they should just make sure the couple is okay with it before purchasing a black dress.  I thinks its certainly okay for the bridesmaids, because it reflects the bride’s wishes.  

     

    Post # 5
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    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I feel like anyone can wear black to a wedding! If you choose it for your bridesmaids, it’s obviously a GO for them. If your mom picks it, well then, good for her. And as a guest of the wedding, I often wear a little black cocktail dress!! Always classy, always appropriate (in my eyes!)

    Post # 6
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    1645 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I think wearing black is absolutely fine.  Tho I am biased completely….

    My BM’s dress is black and charcoal

    My mum’s dress is black with large white dots

    My dress is white with black details

    Post # 7
    Member
    1371 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I think it has to do with the tone of the wedding. A casual, summer garden, beach or late morning wedding? Kinda weird. A fall late afternoon, evening or formal wedding? Rock out the LBD.

    Post # 8
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    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think it’s acceptable no matter what the role in the wedding, bride included.

    Post # 9
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I totally think black is appropriate for a wedding, especially a formal wedding (I probably wouldn’t wear black to a garden party or beach wedding, just because of the setting). My mom is wearing the most incredible off-the-runway black gown for our wedding and I can’t even wait to see her looking like a celebrity!! I LOVE black.

    Post # 10
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I love black and mosto of my dresses are black. When I go to a wedding with my dad’s side of the family I avoid it because in there culture it’s rude to wear mourning colors such as red,purple and black to a wedding. And white is acutally encouraged.

    Post # 11
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    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think it’s perfectly fine!

    Post # 12
    Member
    680 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think it’s just fine too. Although I got married in a black with white polka dots dress.. Hehe!

    Post # 13
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    2877 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I agree it makes a difference as to time of day…morning/afternoon weddings its a bit sombre, evening weddings its classic and classy. i dont know why i feel like that but i do

    The only other issue is that if MOG or MOB are wearing it, it *may* be interpreted as some guests as them not really approving of the wedding. up to the bride really

    Post # 14
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    3295 posts
    Sugar bee

    I am wearing a black dresses that is backless with rhinestones. I bought it from Cache and I am wearing it to my future sister in laws wedding next month. I hope she doesn’t have a problem with the color but I think she may have a problem with the rhinestones…. It is in a very sexy design and eye catching. I think there is over 500 rhinestones on the back of the dress but I absolutely love the dress and had it for about 4 years now and only worn it once. Time to wear it again.

    Post # 15
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    3295 posts
    Sugar bee

    Oh, she is having an evening wedding at a very elegant place. The dress will fit right in.

    Post # 16
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    As a guest, I would not wear black to a wedding unless I was 100% certain the bride and groom were OK with it.  But I wouldn’t think twice about anyone else wearing black.

    As a bride, my MOH, the MOB, MOG, and at least one guest that I know of will be wearing black to my wedding.  I’m fine with it.

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