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I wouldn't personally do it. I guess I'm traditional that way. Besides, what other day are you going to get to wear an all-white gown? You can wear black to any event.
@mrscheetos: Agreed.
But it's your wedding and if that's what you want, go for it.
I thought about this and making all of my bm's wear white. However, and I know this is a silly reason, Sara Jessica Parker did this, and 2 years later she said it was her biggest wedding regret. Ugh. I trusted her lol.
I'm planning on a black dress and heavily considering tea length. That's really pretty! It's a JA, huh? I was thinking I'd probably have to get a custom dress. Hmm.
Personally I wouldn't wear a black dress, but not because I disapprove. Black just doesn't suit me as well as say red or green (the colours I really wanted to wear). My mum offered to pay for the dress on the condition it was a "bridal" colour and gold was as far as I could push it.
If you want it, go for it.
FI teased me about it, because I was a goth kid for years. But I've definitely changed a lot since then, I only dress up like I used to once in a while for kicks. I will admit I briefly considered it! So I'd say if you love it, DO IT! There are no rules for what color dress you have to wear!
Maybe you can wear it to your rehearsal dinner if you are having one? Plus, now you FI has seen it, but maybe that doesn't matter to you if its very non-traditional. I guess I am more traditional with those things too. It's a beautiful dress though, I can see why you love it.
@mrscheetos: I think I'd be ok with never wearing a white dress. Or I could always wear a huge white gown years down the line at a vow renewal. I love traditional white wedding gowns alot, but I can actually picture myself in this gown, which I haven't really been able to do with any other gowns.
I told my fiance that is I was gonna wear this dress, that he should wear a white tuxedo. And he's so in love with the idea that he's on his computer right now looking up white tuxedos.
@MissMeow: haha thats awesome!! I dont know if I could personally bring myself to wear one (I sure would debate it), but I wont knock anyone that does. I think its pretty awesome.
It's such a great dress! It's your wedding so do whatever makes you (and FI) happy. I love your idea of the white tuxedo and black dress. It just seem so classy and unique.
It is a pretty dress but I agree with mrscheetos. I've very traditional though. All I can think is, "Marry in black, wish yourself back."
I didn't wear white either, I wore blue. But I associate black with a funeral. PLus this dress says prom/cocktail not bridal chic.
@KatyElle: I agree with not using black because in U.S. culture it is a traditional color of mourning. It's the same reason why traditional brides in China wear red instead of white.
However, this is your wedding. Not trying to discourage you, but some guests may be a little confused by the color choice. What's your overall theme or color scheme? I can see this working better with some themes/venues than others.
@MissEdamame: I'm only having 30-50 guests, so everybody there will be close enough to us to not be confused by the color choice. Our color scheme is black, red, and white, and our venue is going to be this lovely restaurant with a beautiful outdoor covered area with lights and a fire pit. And our theme isn't really a theme... we're going for a modern feel with lots of nerdy gamer twists.
I love the dress!! I think it's really up to the bride what color....I personally want a white dress, but I think that a wedding can be just as beautiful with a black or any other color bridal gown.
You can love a lot of dresses, they just might not necessarily make good wedding dresses. I'd even go for red or silver over black. It looks sort of Black Swan.
That is a great dress but I personally wouldn't wear a black wedding dress. Sarah Jessica Parker did it and later regretted it. When I think "bride" I think "white dress."
It's totally up to you, though, and if that is what's going to make you feel happy on your wedding day then go for it! I would think it was cool and different if I went to a wedding and the bride was wearing a black dress.
I say if it is what you want - go for it! I would just say to think on it and make sure that is the color you want to wear. I may be a bit biased though - I am going to wear white to our wedding and my future wife is going to wear black (we saw it on a blog and fell in love and it fit us perfectly) and I sure no one will forget she is a bride, even though I am the only one out of the two of us wearing white. happy planning and I'd love to hear what you end up deciding!
I say if it is what you want - go for it! I would just say to think on it and make sure that is the color you want to wear. I may be a bit biased though - I am going to wear white to our wedding and my future wife is going to wear black (we saw it on a blog and fell in love and it fit us perfectly) and I sure no one will forget she is a bride, even though I am the only one out of the two of us wearing white. happy planning and I'd love to hear what you end up deciding!
I would love this for your bridesmaids but I wouldn't wear it as the bride. You would just blend in with the other guests.
I say do it! Only you know what you would feel most comfortable and most beautiful in! You have to know going in that not everyone will understand or agree with your choice, but go with your heart.
I think it's gorgeous btw, and if that's what you want, I say rock it!!
I love it! This isn't an unheard of idea: "A beautiful bride in a white or ivory wedding gown is what we think of when we picture a traditional bride. This wasn't alway so. You may be surprised to learn that in the 1800's, it was common for brides to wear everyday colors such as blue, pink, green, dark brown, burgandy and, yes, even black, rather than white and ivory." -vintage wedding.com
I say if you love it go for it. I have been agonizing over two dresses for my wedding (both by Ian Stuart) neither is white/ivory and one is black!
So I tried to to post this before the 'Bee crashed, here goes another try...
@secondchances: Yup. White didn't become a popular choice until Queen Victoria wore one in 1840. She started the trend, so to speak. Somewhat like Kate Middleton bringing back sleeves.
I LOVE the idea oh a black wedding dress paired with a white tuxedo, and that dress is gorgeous. Great idea! Definitely go for it, if that's what you want, especially if your FI is on board with it, all the better.
I say do it. I gasped when I opened this post because I was drooling over this one on the JA website like three hours ago!
I think the idea of you wearing black and him wearing white is awesome, too. Your wedding is just that - YOUR wedding. You should do what makes you happy! :D
P.S. We're wedding color twins! I'm doing a white, black, and red color scheme too - not traditional for summer but I don't care! I also just noticed you said you were having nerdy elements in your wedding - so are we!
@KatyElle: Couldn't agree more.
If you want to be super unconventional, just go with a different color. If you want to look like a bride, pick a different dress.
Personally, I wouldn't even think of wearing a black dress, ever. However, I am very traditional. Also, I'm incredibly pale, so black washes me out like crazy. If this is what you want for your wedding, then by all means, go for it! I love tea length dresses, and I do like this one quite a bit. :) I really like the idea of reversing the more traditional you wear white, the male wears a black tux kind of thing...it's a cool way to change it up. It's classy.
If that is what you like, then go for it. I couldn't personally do it, because like some PP's I see black as a color of mourning. However, if you're less traditional, then go for it. My dress wasn't white, but it was still "bridal".
@MissMeow: Do it. I wore a black dress and it was pretty awesome. I offset the "funeral" vibe by using a lot of vibrant colors. 
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So... I was browsing different designer sites today to add to my list of gowns I want to try on, when I came upon this the Justin Alexander 8611.
I fell in love INSTANTLY. I love tea length dresses in general, and the few that I've tried on I didn't want to take off, but FI has been vehemently opposed to them. But when I showed him this dress, he LOVED it. He said its his favorite dress I've shown him thus far. Now, the dress comes in white also, but I love it in the black, just like this.
So I was just wondering what you bees think of this dress. Do you think it would be horrible to wear a black wedding dress? Our wedding is going to be very non-traditional, and I personally wouldn't mind wearing a black dress at all. But I wanted to hear what you all thought of the dress and the color.