Post # 1
My FI is demanding he be able to wear a black suit at our wedding.
I wouldn’t mind so much if:
1) Our colors weren’t plum, grey, and baby blue. (Plum is the closest purple to our school color where we met. So it’s important to me.)
2) Our wedding was a begining of summer daytime wedding–with the reception outside
3) He honestly doesn’t look that good in a black suit…don’t get me wrong, he looks good in a suit, but with all the black suis he wears it’s too harsh for his skin tone. When he wears grey his eyes pop an he looks damn good.
4) It’s summer and he’s going to die outside in black because he won’t take of his jacket when wearing a suit.
We’ve been fighting about this for MONTHS and last week he apparently only agreed to it to shut me up, which he told me last night. So now I’m trying to just let it go and not be a bridezilla about it.
Would the plum (david’s bridal plum) and the black be too dark for a summer wedding? I’ve been playing around with switching baby blue from an accent color to the main color along with the plum.
Post # 3
@11mikesgirl21: Have you mentioned how flattering the gray suit is on him? Guys don’t see what we see sometimes… If he is still insistent, I would let him wear the black suit. It’s his day too and he’ll be happiest in something that makes him feel most confident and handsome. You can keep the colors of gray, plum, and blue. I don’t think the men’s suits “make or break” the scheme. Maybe tie in the plum and gray with their accessories and bouts. Maybe give him some gray suspenders…you know that jacket’s gona end up off anyway!
Post # 4
@urbanriceball: I have believe me. We have this problem without the suit thing too. He doesn’t believe me when I say he looks good in something. He’s a stubborn old mule. And you would think the jacket would come off…I’ve seen him keep it on to the point of passing out. He utterly refused to remove it even when the temperature hit about 95 in a crowded church. He’s insistent on spending the reception inside the house in the AC. Reception is at my uncle’s. I can’t tell if he’s being sarcastic or not.
Yeah the suits wouldn’t make or break it, but my FI and the groomsmen (2) are all huge guys. Like over 6 foot tall (FI is 6’6″), line backer (think Michael Ohr in the Blindside) big. And my girls and I are all under 5’5″. I’m just seeing a big black blob in mind when I think of pictures.
Post # 5
The gray will definitely look better, but it sounds like this is more about a power struggle than the actual suit. Has he had any input into the wedding otherwise? Does he feel like his voice is not being heard?
Post # 6
@11mikesgirl21: He can wear what he wants. The groomsmen can still wear grey. That we he stands out, but you still get the grey next to the BM’s dresses.
Post # 7
@Groominator: I ask about one thing and he “doesn’t give a sh!t.” I ask about another and it’s the end of the world that I like something. Like the guestbook and cake we talked about yesterday.
He liked everything about the custom guestbook I found online except that it was put together with binder rings. So out that idea went. The cake, he doesn’t care as long as it’s red velvet. He doesn’t care about the reception or anything besides the ceremony, as he says. And then suddenly he’ll put his foot down. About details that could be overlooked, like the binder rings.
I ask him literally about every detail and it’s like Russian roulette if he cares or not.
Post # 8
@julies1949: Hm. With only two groomsmen would that look as good? I do like that idea.
Post # 9
@11mikesgirl21: I think you need to concede on this one. You choose your dress, he chooses his tux.
I am a firm believer that no colour has a season – any colour looks good at any time of year, if done right. No, black and plum would not be too dark.
EDIT: Like this. p.s. the 2nd one is summer. Note the guys don’t have waistcoats so they’re not so black
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Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I would let him have this one. I found there were a few things DH was insistent on (kings table vs sweetheart), and this sounds like a small one to give him. I really like the idea of the GMs in grey, and the groom in black, and even if all the guys are in black, I don’t think it’ll be too dark.
Post # 12
Black suits normally kind of suck, in my opinion, and in the general concensus of the classical style-conscious male community. But he wants to wear one, and he is a grown man, and so that is what he should be wearing. [/discussion]
If he is very conervative, and perhaps a little old fashioned, in his clothing choices, perhaps suggest a black morning coat, in this ilk:
But, the bottom line is that he is a grown man, and he can, and should, dress himself. He is not an accessory, he is the man you respect enough to marry.