Post # 1
I recently lost my virginity. We have had sex six times now, but it still hurts a lot. It’s getting better, it hurts less each time, and we are using lube and he goes slowly and does lots of foreplay.
The first time we had sex my hymen broke and there was a lot of blood, I wore a tampon for half a day afterward.
Each time after that there is bright red blood when I clean up afterward. Not a lot, but enough to put a pantyliner on for a few hours, because of spotting. It’s very red, and seems to be the same amount each time.
Is this normal? Did you bleed after sex when you lost your virginity?
Post # 3
I’m not sure if everything’s alright if you’re still hurting.
I would suggest giving your body some time (at least a week) to ‘heal’.
If you are still experiencing that after a week, I would visit your doctor.
I think from my experience once the pain was gone, it quickly began very enjoyable.
Post # 4
Yeah, I’d get that checked out. I get it too but now I’m abstaining. My suggestion is to get relaxed as much as possible and enjoy foreplay before, use lubricants also which is what you’ve been doing. Also, give your body a bit of a break in between. Have you had a pap smear and gynecological exam? I have other issues that I haven’t had checked out yet. It might be a symptom of endometriosis, fibroids or polyps.
Post # 5
What I think is odd is that for me the first time I didn’t bleed at all but then the first time he didn’t use protection and released in me I saw some blood but not a lot. In January I will have not been a virgin for 3 years and sometimes it still hurts. Usually it doesn’t but there is the occasion it does. I’d say to give yourself a little time before doing anything again. I hurt every time we had sex for the first while until I took a break for about a week to let my body relax and stop hurting and then after that it was fine except for the random times. My FI is like yours as far as being gentle and going slow to get my body used to it.
Post # 6
The fact that you are still bleeding worries me a bit. I have problems with sex being painful often but I don’t bleed. You might not be using enough lube or maybe he is too vigorous and hitting your cervix a bit? I would try going a few days between having sex if you haven’t done that and let your body rest.
Post # 7
Here’s an article that I think might be useful for you.
Post # 8
I didn’t bleed at all my first time, but it usually still hurts initially (well, more of a discomfort I guess than a pain) every time, and it’s been about 2.5 years. Occasionally it doesn’t, but I’d say 95% of the time, it’s uncomfortable/maybe a little painful initially. This usually doesn’t last long though (maybe like 30 seconds? definitely less than a minute) and after that I’m totally fine. I think I also tend to kind of tense up though initially, in anticipation of it being a little uncomfortable/painful. If you’re concerned, the best thing would be to bring it up with your gyno & ask if that’s something to be worried about/look into further!
Post # 9
Take some time to heal, use lots and lots of lube and if you’re still experiencing pain/discomfort and bleeding, consult with a clinician.
Post # 10
I bled a lot my first time but it was at the time if you know what I mean I didn’t need to wear a pantyliner afterwards. If you continue to bleed I would get it checked out. I can find sex painful now at times and it seems to be since having an IUD fitted.
Post # 11
I didn’t bleed the first time and it stopped hurting after 5-10 minutes. My friend went through this though and she hurt the first four or five times she had sex and for some reason never went to the doctor. She also had endometriosis though (knew about it before having sex) so that may have been why. I agree to relax for a few days then if it still hurts and bleeds, consult your doctor.
Post # 12
@QuietOne:Definitely go to a gynecologist and insist on being heard. I’ve had pain every time I’ve had sex, and after 9 months and multiple trips to doctors that were no help, I finally have a diagnosis.
Its better to get on the right track early than to let sex become a frustrating experience.
Post # 13
This might be a weird question, but can you tell where the blood is coming from (your hymen vs coming from inside your vagina)? I think if it’s coming from your hymen, maybe it just didn’t “break” all at once, and maybe it will stop if you give it time to heal.
But if it is coming from inside you, then I would definitely make an appointment with a gynecologist (and abstain from sex until after your appointment).
Post # 14
I think you should have stopped bleeding by now IMO (totally just that-opinion-not anything else) If it goes on much longer you should go to the doctor.
Post # 15
Sometimes it takes a while for your body to get used to it. I bled even after we got back from the honeymoon. I lost my virginity on the wedding night, and then we had sex like every day on the honeymoon and I still bled a bit if we weren’t slow and careful, sorry if TMI. But every woman is different. Just wait a bit and see a doctor if you’re worried.
Post # 16
Every woman is different, so don’t be alarmed unless a doctor tells you otherwise. I would, however, schedule an appointment with a ob/gyn. At the very least you can speak to her more about your reproductive system and she can fill you in about pap tests etc. now that you aren’t a virgin anymore. If you bleeding presists you should get in to see someone immediately. Light bleeding is normal sometimes if you’re irritated or something has torn, but if it requires a pantyliner for a few hours than you may want to consider that you have an issue with blood clotting or something similar that should be treated.
I’m guessing this is all just because of loosing your virginity, so don’t let my words scare you. I just always believe it’s better to be safe than sorry 🙂