Post # 1
I’m looking for ideas for gifts for our 4 boys for the wedding ceremony. Three will be teenagers and one a "tween." I think we’ll include them in our vows and also do a sand ceremony with everyone participating but I’d like to present them with a keepsake gift as a reminder of the day we all officially became a family. Anyone have any ideas? I attended a ceremny recently and they gave all the kids necklaces (crosses) but none of our boys wear jewelry so I’m stuck. They’re all big jocks but new bats don’t really convey the mood I’m looking for, kwim. (That was alittle joke!)
Post # 3
If the teens are jocks, do they read?
What about a book for the teens regarding famous people in their sport? For the tween, I’ve had a lot of success with the "Dangerous Book for Boys." You can write a personal message in it from the two of you.
I know they’re young, but cufflinks are something they can use for the wedding and forever (prom, formals, eventual other weddings to go to plus their own…)
Hope this helps!
Post # 4
Ooo. I want to think of something good, and bump this while I think. Bump!!!!
Post # 5
I like the idea of cufflinks or something they can use again for the next formal event (be it prom, others weddings, or their own wedding!) Also something that I would suggest is a very nice handwritten note from both you and your future husband (one from each) to each of them. Give it to them the morning of the wedding, it will make them remember how important they are to both of you, even on your big day.
What about a simple photo frame that is empty and fill it with a photo? Or buy them their tie to wear? I want to say tickets to a game (baseball, basketball, their choice), but I dont like how that is like a one time and then it’s over thing. What about — now this sounds wierd at first — but a board game or a movie or video game — but make sure it comes with a note saying that it’s for family night, for you all to play together as a family.
My brother got his groomsmen engraved baseball bats!! They were a HUGE hit (pun totally intended) and they weren’t cheap!! Each of the guys still talks about them! They were all approx 27 at the time and they were like little kids — it’s more of a keepsake since it had their names and date of the wedding engraved. If I find a picture I’ll get it on here.
Or you could go the route of getting them ipods and engraving their names and the wedding date on them?
I also just had another idea that could be fun — you should write them all notes near your wedding day and save them and then give them to them on their wedding days! Ha, I’m such a cheeseball!
Sorry if those ideas were all over the place, I’ve really been thinking about this one!
Post # 6
I like your ideas so far – keep them coming! Cuff links are good but I don’t know if they’d wear them at the wedding – don’t know how they’ll be dressed! The notes to them are sweet, I’m a big mush pot too.
Post # 7
oooh i’m going through the same thing.. except my son will be 3! i LOVE the note idea! he can add it to his "stack". when i was preg with him i wrote notes to him from his "birth mommy" since he was going to be adopted.
we are considering getting him a tiny ring (because baby jewelry is SOO cute!) and engraving the word "family" into it, and him receiving it during the vows (he’s our ringbearer, too, so it sort of falls into line!). not 100% sure about that one, but we both like the idea.
i think that batt idea is cute. assuming the boys like baseball.. or the cuff idea. what about a scrapbook of the photos of you all as a family? maybe a nice leather photo album? we are including my son in our engagement photos (and the joining ceremony is being recognized on the invites!) so that would be nice… something to hold onto long term. i definitely wouldn’t suggest doing something that can be lost, which unfortunately cuts out the thought of stuff that is being used a lot since boys will be boys. 🙂
are you thinking of something to present to them during the ceremony, or to give to them sort of like the bride/groom gifts? i think that is something that would make a huge difference.
Post # 8
We put a lot more emphasis on including my husbands’ kids (both teenagers) in the planning. We picked a venue where they had spent a lot of time and felt comfortable (our country club), made sure they knew everything that was going on, included some of their friends on the guest list, let them help with choosing flavors of cake and looking through invitation samples and such. my husband showed them the engagement ring before he gave it to me, and we showed them the wedding rings before the ceremony. We had them help greet the guests, and we danced with them right after dancing with our parents. We got them a boutinierre (for his son) and a wrist corsage (for his daughter). We didn’t include them in the ceremony at all. They already knew they were an important part of what was going on, so we didn’t think it was necessary to add anything – it felt to us as if it would be more to demonstrate their involvement to our guests than to them. They already knew that they were an integral part of our decision.
Since you do want to include your kids, there are all kinds of ways. It sounds like they would be old enough to do a reading or give a toast at the reception. Getting them all boutinierres is a great idea. I would also try to include them in your planning, as much as possible – that seemed to be a big thing for our kids.
Post # 9
You can incorporate the family medallion into a keychain or a book bag pull. I think that having them IN the wedding and as much as part of it is important!
Hey..here’s a fun idea..how about a "kids cake" where it showcases a little bit of each of them? Say if one’s a baseball player, have a bat and hat. If one’s a soccer player, add a soccer ball to it. If the girl is a dancer, add ballet shoes and let them cut their own family cake! That is something I’ve thought of doing..never seen it done, but think it could be really fun! Then serve the kids cake at the kids’ buffet table!
Post # 10
I have 2 boys, one is a teenager and the other a "tween. We decided to give the boys pocket watches with their initials engraved on them. We thought that would be more of a keep sake for them as they get older to remember the day when we all became a family.
Post # 11
lshacklett – great idea! I had thought of that too and am really leaning towards it. Thanks!
Post # 12
I agree – go for keepsake, not just fun now. Its a give for a moment that should last a lifetime, go for the more classic or life long. (and maybe a small fun "now" gift before or after)