Post # 1
My fiance and and I are living in his house, when I moved in we were only dating. I pay him $650 rent we split groceries. I do all domestic housework. Cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. We are both divorced and I have a small child from my first marriage. I am a stay at home mom and am able to do so from my divorce settlement and child support. My fiance approached me and said that he would like me to keep paying the 650 after we are married. He is not at all dependent onmy rent and has a very good paying job. This caught me off guard and I am not sure what to think. All of our other bills are completly seperate. Any similar scenario’s out there?
Post # 3
@ahboo: We don’t have our money blended together and probably won’t do it even after we are married. I have my set of bills to pay and he has his and I find that it works out in the end. We are going to probably open a joint savings account for things we want to spend on together but our situation now is fine as is.
If you want to have your money/bills blended that is something you should bring up with your FI, especially if it is important to you.
Post # 4
Are you wanting to have all your finances combined after the wedding? Or are you wanting to keep them separate? Is this something you’ve talked about?
The way I see it, you two need to sit down and decide, together, how you’re going to handle your finances once you’re married. It shouldn’t be him telling you what you will do, nor should you be telling him. This is something that you need to discuss and determine what works best for you as a family. If you decide you want your finances blended, then all your bills will come out of your joint account. If you decide you want your money separate, then you’ll need to decide how you want to split the bills between you. But all of these should be decisions made together, not things that he decides and then informs you of. Good luck!
Post # 5
I would perfer to keep them seperate. Maybe set aside the money for future joint investments. Yes, I agree sitting down to talk about this is the answer just wanted to get back feed back from some people that are not family or friend members. Thanks.
Post # 6
My partner moved in to my place. We decided to add up all the expenses of the home- mortgage, taxes, utilities, cable tv etc and he pays me half. We split the groceries.
We both have financially rewarding jobs so pick up our own costs for vacations etc.