- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I need some sound advice to deal with my crazy step mom. Kinda long, but you know how family dynamics can be…
Quick background: My step-mom is the ultimate victim. My dad is a compulsive liar and often doesn’t fill his wife in on important information (example in currect situation). My step-mom can’t handle that my dad had a life before her (including the fact that he had an ex-wife ei my mom. Step Mom will be called J, Dad will be called D and Mom will be called M unless otherwise noted.
My dad’s house is 4 mins from the venue so I had planned on getting ready at their place the day of the wedding. Everything was going along nicely until I asked if my mom could come over and take some pictures while I was getting ready. Here is the conversation:
Me: Hey Dad, can Mom come over for about an hour to take pics of me while I’m getting ready at your place?
D: Well, I’ll have to talk to J about that. (He didn’t say this as nicely but never appologized and then said is was due to space issue that I coudln’t get ready at his house)
Me: If J has a problem with me being with my mom that day then I will get ready elsewhere (I didn’t this say as nicely and then called later to appologize for flying off the handle).
Not sure if this conversation was ever relayed to J. D offered to get us a hotel room the night before the wedding so I would have a place to get ready. Very nice and generous of him. 3 days after hotel arrangements were made (bringing us to today), i get this email from J:
Your Daddy shared w/me that you will be dressing with your Mom elsewhere on your wedding day.
That’s fine–I understand
If you would be so kind as to do me a favor though
Would you please take photos of you getting ready n stuff and send to me?
I would like to keep my own personal memories of that day
Never had my own little girls–but I tried to love you and (older sister) as much as you would let me
–known you since you were just 11 years old!
You will be a beautiful bride–and I wish you a lifetime of joy
Try not to forget about us after you are married
Also–I am assuming that you will cancel the “Make Up Professional” that you had booked for me?
I will try to find someone else
Hopefully, you and (Groom) will have some time to spend with your Dad and I before the wedding
If not–guess we’ll see you at the Rehersal
I WANT TO PUNCH HER IN THE FACE! UGH! Any suggestions on responding? Not responding? Punching her in the face (upper cut, jab, cross?). I’m kidding about resorting to violence but my blood is boiling. Please help!!!