Post # 1
I let all my girls know today how much the dresses were (only $80 so I thought I was doing good) and I get a message back from one that says she cant afford to go to the wedding. With it being a hard economy, wedding in Vegas, her being a single mom in college, I truly do understand and I have no hard feeling toward her what so ever, I am just hurt. And then to top it off while I am telling another Bridesmaid or Best Man about it she says she already knew and may have to back out herself. I am super sad and super worried! The one that backed out I truly do understand and love her for letting me know. But the second one I cant find myself to be so understanding. I mean she is also a single mom in college BUT she lives at home, has no bills, her parents buy everything, constantly going on trips and to concerts and every time she gets a new bf she puts a CD player in his truck, fills his house with furniture and food. Like I said I am not mad at them, I am just really disappointed and let down. I had to add a Bridesmaid or Best Man today bc my Fiance added a Groomsmen and now I am right back where I started and to be honest I dont want anyone else to stand up there with me =( Thanks for ‘listening’
Post # 3
Awe I am sorry that sucks!
Hopefully everything works out and this girl can stay involved!
Post # 4
Sorry that happened. Kudos to you for being so understanding. As for the 2nd Bridesmaid or Best Man…can I date her? I’d like a new cd player for my car, my house could use some furniture, and the fridge could use a little lovin. 😀 I think her backing out would be a shady thing for her to do unless she had some legit reason come up.
And, don’t worry about the whole BM/GM ratio. Lots of girls are having uneven wedding parties (my sister did!) and it looks great. I think it is better to have fewer girls with you that mean something to you than asking someone to step in just to even things out. And, it might hurt the girl’s feelings if she knows she’s only a replacement Bridesmaid or Best Man. Like she didn’t mean that much to you to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in the first place. Nobody likes to be sloppy seconds.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry. I ended up having 2 people back out as well and had my husband’s sister as my bridesmaid. It sucks!
Post # 6
@eeh2010 I completely agree with you, I informed my Fiance that I wasnt going to add anyone else up there to replace her, the only reason I was able to add someone was bc I wanted my cousin up there with me to begin with. As for the second girl, she even got a 10k settlement and won 1k and informed me that she was all set to go for Vegas and the funds where there and that was only 2 weeks ago. Like I said I am really really worried that she will back out and then it will be 3 against 5 lol
and to top it off my Fiance doesnt have a sister… I wonder if his younger brother would be interested? lol
Post # 7
Aw I’m sorry! good luck to you and I’ll keep my fingers crossed that it all works out just perfectly for you…which I’m sure it will! 🙂
Post # 8
Whoa! So she basically just got 11k? I’m gonna tell myself that she has a lot of oustanding debt/bills and needs that money to bali her out of debt. Otherwise, I wouldn’t think she would have any reason for not being able to attend your wedding. Is it possible she can’t miss work/school or can’t get a sitter for her kid? The sitter thing seems unlikely since you mentioned that she lives with her parents. Seriously though, good luck. And 3 on 5 won’t be bad…my sister had 3 on 6 but with more BMs than GMs. In pictures we just made sure to have everyone mixed in instead of standing in a line. If you mix it up you don’t really notice.