Post # 1
I need to give a small background. I recently changed my life and the people in it for many reasons, mostly good. All the people coming to the wedding and all the BM’s are his friends. Don’t get me wrong I get along great with them but I havent actually meet any of them in person so it’s not really the same thing. They all are busy so none of them really are excited or help with the wedding. I’m paying for all their travel, dresses, etc and I know they are excited but I think more so for the trip than to see me. At this point I’m thinking of inviting my only friend who I talk too but tried to keep to a distance for many reasons that now seem kinda silly. I know she will be excite for ME..she will ask me how things are, how I feel, listen to me complain, help me plan things, do all the girly stuff and really be excited for me and only me..I guess I really want my own friend there and not just all his. I just don’t feel as if any of them care about it and just that they getting a free trip. He doesn’t really like her so not sure how he’ll take it that I want her there though.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
missplanner, I’m not sure what the background is for this friend of yours, but I think you definitely deserve to have a bridesmaid who will be there for you! Why are only your fi’s friends on your side, anyway? It’s your decision who will stand up with you during your wedding, and I think you should choose what’s right for you. If your friend will be genuinely excited for you and helpful, it sounds like she’d be a great choice for your Maid/Matron of Honor.
And maybe try talking to the other girls in your party…exchange emails with them and try to involve them more…maybe the more you put yourself out there, the more they’ll be excited for you! And they definitely owe you a little excitement if you’re paying for their trip!!
Post # 4
I do email them all the time, or chat with them when I see them online. Only one of them really seem exited excited. I know they are busy and have lives and I’m really busy myself too.
The reason none of my olds are friends invited is because I had a huge falling out with them. I found out they are basically two faced and liars. I don’t miss them. I just didn’t invite my one friend because, well she is kinda a free loader but hell they all are at this point so I dont see why I shouldn’t invite her too.I think I was just so hurt from my friends that I lumped her into that group and just wanted to start over and now realize that i miss her.
Post # 5
I would try and talk to this girl. If she wasn’t a liar and twofaced with you like the rest of them, then maybe she isn’t as horrible a friend as you remember. You need to have someone who is excited and will talk to you about the wedding!