(Closed) BM dissing behind my back :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Aww, I’m sorry, don’t let it get to you.  Your other BM shouldn’t have even told you about such a minor incident. Why even bring it up??  I know I’ve been in weddings where I bitched the shoes I was made to wear, etc., but I would have felt absolutely terrible if it had gotten back to the bride and made her feel bad. 

 

Post # 5
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54 posts
Worker bee

@JavaBean: If it bothers you that much I would ask her if there is something she needs to talk to you about…. If she does not want to bring it up then I would let it go…..

Post # 6
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921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just let it go. She may have said it to the friend instead because she didn’t want to influence anything you’ve decided for your wedding or hurt your feelings. I don’t think your other friend should have said anything to stir up trouble.

Post # 7
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Personally, if I were a bridesmaid in a wedding where the colors were green and brown, and I was told to wear a black dress, I would probably comment to another bridesmaid that it seems a bit off. They may not know the exact details of the decor and flowers, so I think it’s an honest thing to question. I don’t think they are “dissing” you or trying to be mean spirited. Maybe instead of confronting them, just bring it up causally about what everyone else is wearing and how it ties into the overall look. It will answer their question without making an issue out of it.

Post # 8
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1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mightywombat: I agree that the other BM shouldn’t have said anything. Maybe your BM was having a bad day, or just isn’t a fan of the dresses. It’s a shame she couldn’t vent without the other bridesmaid tattling. I’m sorry you are upset now. πŸ™

Post # 9
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

I would also just let it go. You don’t need the stress or drama that confronting her is going to create. And you said yourself that the little things don’t matter. So she doesn’t like the color of your dresses. Good thing it’s not her wedding then!

Post # 10
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2742 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think it’s a big deal and honestly, why did tattlemouth go and tell you what the other BM said? I think you should just let it go and enjoy the last month before the wedding πŸ™‚ Ps, my sisters, who are my BM’s told me to my face tha they HATED my dress and are going to give it to me when the wedding is over. I’m happy, I love JCrew πŸ™‚

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