Post # 1
I got engaged right after my one of my best friends got married… not right after, about a month or so after it was all said and done. I asked her, and several other girls, to be my bridesmaids a few weeks ago. I only asked one girl to be my maid of honor, and I haven’t decided on a matron of honor yet… Because Jenny hasn’t always supported us. In the beginning, she even told me to break up with him because he was taking up too much of my time?!? That aside, I love her dearly and she is one if the best friends I could have ever asked for. That being said, since I have gotten engaged she’s been really… moody? It’s like she hates talking about my upcoming wedding, and only wants to ever talk about hers. She’s almost MEAN about it. But in that Regina George kind if way, where she’s pretending she’s nice. It’s like she isn’t happy for me. And I know I’m probably reading too much into this, but every time I post a picture of me and the Fiance on FB or IG, she doesn’t like it. i know I could chalk this up to post wedding blues… Or I could chalk it up to her being a bitch. Or this could all be because I haven’t asked her to be my matron of honor yet. At what point do I say something to her? My mom wants me to kick her out of the wedding because she’s being so rude. I know my best friend is in there SOMEWHERE, but I can’t find her! Help me please!!
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2014 - Loft
I didn’t know you could get married in high school.
Post # 3
What has she explicitly done that’s been rude?
Post # 4
She doesn’t instantly like your FB or IG pics? Bitch doesn’t deserve to be breathing the same air as you.
I’d slash her tires then spread nasty rumors on social media about her and her new best friend, Chlamydia.
Post # 5
KThutt: I don’t know why you would ask her to be Maid/Matron of Honor if she’s just being rude to you? Why put yourself into a position where it would be easy for her to create more drama if she has the urge? And what kind of ‘best friend’ would be so rude to you as to tell you to break up with someone because ‘they take up too much of your time’?
Could it also be that she’s in post wedding blues, you’re in pre wedding bliss, and she’s not really being mean, you’re just over the moon, and she just doesn’t have the energy to be as excited as you are? How often are you talking about your wedding? If it’s constant, I don’t blame her for not wanting to hear about it.
Post # 6
missjz: actually, yea you can.
Post # 7
KThutt: I’m sorry your friend has been rude to you. I think maybe you need to talk to her and figure out what’s going on. But, from what I understand now, I think your friendship needs to be reevaluated.
Post # 8
Dying at these comments!!
@missjz, I agree. I feel like this is all so reminiscent of high school!
@msappleblossom a long list of things. 1) when I called her to tell her about my engagement, she said “oh. That’s nice.” But not in an excited way, more like a “bitch, please” way. 2) she for got mad that I asked some girl friends who she doesn’t know to be my bridesmaids. 3) she told me that if I didn’t use all of her Vendors, I would basically have a shit wedding!
I honestly don’t ever talk about my wedding, unless it’s with my mom. I’m too busy to talk about it! I really feel like she is in her post-wedding blues stage and she doesnt have the energy to be happy for me. I’m so confused as to how to feel about the situation!
Post # 9
Why do you need a maid of honor and a matron of honor? Or is that a typo?
I think you need to relax and deal with the fact that you’re both having “your special time” at the same time as each other. I’m sure she wants attention on her right now, as I’m sure part of you wants the same. Maybe accept that she could be just a regular bridesmaid and then don’t include her on as many details (does a bridesmaid need to know who all your vendors are? Probably not).
Women get weird about their weddings. You clearly don’t understand that she may not want to constantly hear about your wedding when she’s trying to revel in her own wedding ray of sunshine.
Post # 10
KThutt: Honestly, if you’ve already asked someone to be a Maid of Honor she probably thinks she’s out of the running and is hurt. Does she have any idea that you’re considering having a Matron of Honor as well?
I’m accustomed to only having one MoH, and maybe she is too, so since you’ve chosen that girl she probably thinks she won’t get to be MoH and her feelings are hurt.
Post # 11
everyone is going to think that the stuff they chose is the best! That is why I never asked opinions from people who are so snobbish that think that it is either their way or no way…. Isnt the point of getting married is to spend your life with your one and only. You do not need friends. Maid of honour? matron of honour? bridesmaids? arent they all the same at the wedding? I dont get the point….My sister is supposedly maid of honour because she is my sister but I dont know what she is going to do more than my other 2 bridesmaid…also, I dont expect her or any other bridesmaid to do anything for me or the wedding. I just bother them with their dress, praying that they dont get really deep tan lines that I cant cover up and thats it. Whenever my sister is at home I bother her to help me with some DIY and sometimes she comes along at some appointments because she wants to but that is about it.