Post # 1
So I’m about to order the bridesmaid dresses – and the company I’m using requires all of the dress orders to be placed together. So I asked my bridesmaids to have a tailor measure them, or measure themselves to see which dress size they should get. I told them that bridesmaid dresses run small and that it probably wouldn’t correspond to their street size. I told them not to suck it in – and if in doubt to order a size larger – because we can always take in a dress – but we can’t make a dress thats too small fit.
Well, my FSILs, emailed me her size, and I’m not sure if that size will fit her. She ordered the same size as another bridesmaid and just by thinking about them and what they looked like in December – I’m thinking that the dress she ordered will be a size too small.
So – what do i do? I’ve heard all of the stories of bridesmaid dresses not fitting…. and I dont’ want to run into that. But i also don’t want to offend her and order a size bigger than she said….. What do you think i should do??
Post # 3
Asking them to have themselves measured was good. Letting them guess, not so much. Be prepared for an uncomfortable conversation when you ask her about the size she chose. Ask if it wouldn’t be too much of a problem, you would really like everyone to get measured by a professional to avoid any potential problems.
Better safe than sorry!
Post # 4
Perhaps you should e-mail her and let her know that you talked to a sales person and they said that the sizes are running an extra size smaller. Perhaps she would want to get a size larger to be on the safe side. Mention that another bridesmaid is doing the same (of course you don’t want to lie but at least one is probably ordering a size up).
Post # 5
I actually had the same problem. I asked my BMs repeatedly to measure themselves and tell me their size. One BM told me that she regularly shops at Ann Taylor and knows 100% that she was a particular size. What ended up happening was the dress was way too small. I had to buy her another dress. (Keep in mind that I am already paying for all my BM’s dresses in the first place.) =(
I think its a good idea to say that everyone is getting a few sizes larger than their typical size to be safe. That way she won’t feel like you are singling her out for her weight.
Post # 6
You are totally right, bridal/BM dresses run 2-3 (sometimes 4) times bigger than a persons street size. What a way to make you feel fat on your big day huh?
Ask them to have someone else measure them and to send you the measurements, as opposed then sending you the size they think they are. People don’t ususally take good measurements on themselves, as you’re bending and crunching or what not.
My girls actually just ordered their dresses this past Saturday and after measuring their bust (with their bra on), waist (natural waist), and hips (the widest part), they should take the largest size from the measurement chart.
Meaning if according to the chart their bust is a 6, their waist is a 4, and their hips are an 8, go for the size 8. If someone is on the fence between sizes, go for the larger one. You can always tailor a dress to go smaller, but no way no how can you go bigger without ordering another dress.
P.S. part of the reason you have to order the dresses all at once is so that all your dresses come from the same dye lot of fabric.
Post # 7
A little white lie – you could tell her you got the right size and htey sent a size higher or we ordered all size 10s or something and now we need to adjust them by tailoring. I don’t know that’s a tough situation.