- Miss Meepsie
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2010
OK, ladies, I need to vent & need some reassurance that I’m not a nut…
5 of my 7 BM’s live on the west coast (they’re all FH’s sisters/stepsisters/niece). Wedding’s in NYC.
FH was talking to FMIL last week, and she asked him which address they should SHIP the BM dresses to… SHIP THEM!?!? Ahem, what?
FH: no way jose, those dresses were ordered months ago & are not dresses that we can buy off the rack if something goes wrong in the shipping process.
FMIL: well, we’ll INSURE them.
FH: Um, insurance isn’t going to solve the problem if something happens to the dresses. They need to carry them on. (THANK GOD HE GETS IT!)
FMIL: Well, we all have a lot of other things to carry on.
FH: No. We are not comfortable with this idea, please don’t ship.
FMIL: I’m to stressed to talk about this now, I’ll see what I can do.
After a week or so, we thought this was all settled & that they’d carry their dresses on. I even conceded to driving out to the airport to pick them up so they don’t have to lug them on the subway.
Tonight, another phone call –
FMIL: I don’t see why Meepsie has such an issue with the girls shipping the dresses. We’ll send them insured/registered. Nothing will happen to them. Blah blah blah.
FH: We’ve been over this. We haven’t asked anyone for anything other than this.
FMIL: Well, it’s really not my decision.
Some background – FMIL works for the USPS, so when we say that we don’t trust them with the dresses, she gets all offended. Also, she says it’s “not her call” but at the same time, she’s talking up the shipping idea like it’s the best thing since sliced bread. And I’m sorry, but the stepsisters are minors, so technically it IS her call for them.
I’ve traveled for a lot of weddings as a BM as well as a guest. I have never, nor would I ever consider shipping a dress! Is it not customary to put that sh!t in a garment bag and carry it on?
Please tell me that I’m not being unreasonable? I’ll gladly ship the dresses back to the west coast after the wedding, but I’m just not comfortable with trusting the USPS to get them out here in time. Who knows what could happen, weather, loss, fire, theft, they could get run over, idk… I know that’s all worst case scenario, but I feel like why tempt fate with something so easily avoided….