Post # 1
My BM’s dress is $162 + alterations and I’m feeling guility about it. I know they don’t have a ton of money but I don’t think that the dress is super high priced? Plus I at least picked something they could wear again if they wanted too…..
Is this normal to feel this way?
Is the dress too much????
Post # 3
162$ is not bad for a BM dress. I’ve been trying to keep the dresses for my girls under 200$ (not including alterations). I think its normal to feel that way. But, I wouldnt stress about it.
What brand is the dress? By ordering it from one of the online BM dress stores you may be able to get it for a tad less.
try netbride & pearls place.
Post # 5
I agree w/sfgirl, try Netbride. Or, what I’m doing is ordering through RK Bridal’s "No frills" program – you have to fax in the order, but they will match the cheapest price plus give you a 5% discount. So I emailed Netbride for a quote and will send it to RK Bridal. The retail price for my dresses is $170, but I will end up getting them for a little less than $100 each! Both Netbride and RK Bridal have gotten good reviews from what I’ve seen.
Post # 6
I would love if my dresses were that much. I searched for months. Unfortunately I had 3 extremely different & difficult girls. So finally after at least one of them said no to about 50 dresses, I said pick your own all different from Watters. They are all 250-300. But hey, I gave them a LOT of cheaper options, and nothing was good enough. Anyway, try http://www.houseofbrides.com too, they have the b2 line.
Post # 7
Way too much is all in the perspective of the person who is paying. What is A LOT to one person may not be too bad for another.
In my limited experience (twice as BM and once as a flower girl) we have never been asked to buy our own dresses. They were chosen and given to me by the bride. However, I know both of those were under $100. So I think it’s fair to say – if YOU think it’s too expensive and wouldn’t want to pay for all the dresses or even if you were the BM, then it might be too much. If you wouldn’t mind, then it’s not. HTH
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2007 - Hyatt Lodge, Oak Brook IL
$162 is not bad… but I heard that netbride doesn’t offer Jasmine dresses anymore? Maybe someone else can confirm. Which is too bad cuz I ordered my Jasmine dresses via netbride.
If you feel bad, perhaps you contribute to the cost of the dress? Maybe pitching in $20 per dress, and then maybe it won’t seem painful for them?
Post # 9
My bridesmaids’ dresses are $190 each – no alterations (they are from Nordstrom). I felt like they were too expensive, but all of my bridesmaids are happy with the dress and feel like it’s something they can wear again. The last time I was in a wedding I think the dress was $160 + alterations and there is no chance I’d wear it again. As long as your bridesmaids are happy with the choice, then don’t worry.
Post # 10
I chose a Vera Wang dress that my mother instantly vetoed as it was $380. I polled the girls to see what they felt comfortable with and all of them (I have 12) said "Under $200", so the dress I chose is $135 not counting the alterations. I think that’s reasonable – as is $162.
Post # 11
I was very, very determined that my bridesmaid dresses be less than $100, preferably WAY less. They are from J. Crew and ended up being $70 each with a 20% off code.
I know financially most of my bridesmaids would not be able to afford more than $100. My sister is the MoH and she has three children, another BM just had a baby, my cousin is "working" doing volunteer work in California, and my fiance’s mom had to buy two for his sisters.
I think what is expensive really depends on where people are at financially. You should also take into account what else you are asking them to spend. Do you want them to pay to get their hair done? A trip to the spa? Special shoes? Add up everything you plan on asking them to shell out money for and then decide if it’s too much.
I had a hard enough time telling people they had to buy a dress, I was definitely not going to tell them they had to buy a dress that was more than $100. As much as I wanted to find something they’d wear later, I wasn’t going to use that as justification for spending more money. I may thing "Oh, they can totally wear this later" and they’re saying "No way I will ever wear this again." I just didn’t want to put them in that situaton.
Post # 12
Yeah I checked Net Brode and no Jasmine dresses
And the price of the dresses I chose are not overpriced enough that I wouldn’t myself, if I was the BM, pay for it. I think if that was a number I was given I would be fine – actually I know I would be. It’s just everytime I tell people that this will cost this, or this will cost that – I get that exasperated look of "I’m not made of money"
They agreed to be in the wedding, I’ve never in my live been provided with my hair being doen, a dress and shoes when I was a bridesmaid – and a few of my girls (the ones with the "Ugh money" thing) have been in several weddings prior to mine….so it’s not a suproise as to how the day works out – you know?
Post # 13
Mine are silk shantung and 295. I’m buying them for the girls because they are never going to wear them again (champagne evening gown). I havee 8, but I just cn’t justify making my bridesmaids pay for what I want.
Post # 14
i would email netbride directly. i emailed them to ask if they carry jim hjelm bridesmaids, and they do, they just don’t advertise it on the website…maybe it’s the same with jasmine?
Post # 15
I picked 2 places to get dresses- one where they would be close to $100 (davids bridal) and one where they would be more like $200 (ann taylor). I told them to pick what they wanted – and 3 chose the cheap and 3 chose the expensive. So it couldn’t have worked out better. (of course the expensive went on sale…)
Unfortunately, its a matter of knowing your party and their spending habits. When you go shopping – what stores would you go with each person? What’s the average price of the stuff they buy? Are they really going to wear the dress again – really? How often do they dress up for work etc.? If you know that’s going to be the most expensive clothing in their closet – I might hesitate. If you know they shell out that much for a single clothing item at least once a year – I’d just sigh and move on.
Honestly, I think $160 is fair for a bridesmaid dress. I’d rather be close to $100, but I’ve paid that before and I would never give flack to you about it. $200 is probably the level where I would start to seriously balk. But that’s probably not universally true – it all depends on the girls personal situations.